[Macd123]

Well it’s the fourth day of my surgery and I only have one arm. I was feeling sorry for myself because I kept wondering if I was going to be able to care for myself after surgery. So when a friend called and offered help I insisted that I was okay and could get by. That is borderline true but my independent stance was pretty adamant. Reality is that it would be nice to have someone around but I’ve been alone so long that it is hard to accept a hand. This time I might make it but I should probably swallow my pride in the future and grab that hand...... still struggling a bit but it should get easier 🤔🤔🤔

There is nothing wrong with accepting or asking for help. It doesn't mean you are not independent or weak. It shows strength to admit maybe you need or want help. We all need help sometimes. We don't always have to be super strong.

[tecomsin]

Macd, I've gone through periods where I felt the same.

[eskielover]

My friends didnt make it my choice.. They just said we want to make sure you are ok. But my friend is also my pharmacist & another my GP PA. I appreciated them getting me a little to drink because it was massive oral surgery & no teeth to chew with & when I got home I felt like I had been run over by a truck until I took the liquid ibuprofen & within 15 minutes the run over by a truck feel was gone so I kept up with that. I was already in my normal psin killer patch for my migraine pain which the oral surgery triggered in spite of that med.

Yes, a helping hand is good & with my friend's dhoulder surgery I kept her in ice packs so she didn't constantly have to get up & could rest. It is awesome to have friends who are there no matter what.

I am so dang independent too so I do understand that feeling though I am learning that good friends & being a good friend is important. I never thought feeling connected to others was even important until it happened in my newer alone life (10 years now)

[~Christina]

Accept help it’s not forever.

I have this problem too... it is tough. I haven't really be able to accept help. But when I try I try to pretend I am someone else... that helps me accept it more easily.