[Fisto]

Hey Everyone,

I'll cut to the chase. My girlfriend is a Men's hair stylist. I have recently become suspect to cheating. We have been dating for two years and just consolidated all of our possessions and moved in together 4 months ago. I just went in to get my haircut at her new job, which she started a month ago. When she was done, I asked her to grab lunch. She said okay. Then she told me that I have to walk out the door 3 minutes before her because she doesn't want anyone knowing I'm her boyfriend (or that she has one?). I called her out and she said that she doesn't want anyone involved in her business. I'm 37 years old and she's 32. We're not kids. I cannot wrap my head around this one being anything other than an admission of guilt. Please offer input.

[Skeezyks]

Well... I don't really know anything about this. It does seem weird... & maybe a bit suspicious on the surface. I guess the one thing I can say with regard to it is that I know, from what my wife has told me, there tends to be a lot of gossip that goes on in a hair salon. Of course, my wife is referring to the types of salons that cater to women. And you said your gf is a men's stylist. But I suppose it could be a similar situation. Perhaps your gf simply doesn't want her private life to become the subject of salon gossip? That's the only other possibility I can think of...

[Bill3]

Ask her about it.

She probably gets better tips if she’s single is probably all this is about. Interested men will ask coworkers.

I heard a story like this on the radio the other day.

[FallDuskTrain]

Yes, you should talk to her about this. She is the only person who can give you the honest, real answer. And, if you cannot talk to her about this issue, then please consider it as a red flag and figure out why choose not to discuss such a simple issue with your live in girl friend. That does sound concerning.
Also, what she is doing is not weird. I wouldn't want anyone at my work to know about my private life. I would share if I am married but even then, it is not their business. It is better that they don't know.
Also, you mentioned that her clientele is mostly male.... So, she might end up making more tips... If this is the real reason, I would be a little annoyed but again, if you trust her and your relationship with her, you could tolerate this.

[Crazy Hitch]

It IS strange behaviour, but not necessarily because she’s cheating. The risk would have been too high of you kissing her hello or goodbye. I’d have some serious conversation if I were you, but don’t jump to conclusions.

[TishaBuv]

Of course talk openly with her about it and I agree with the above posts. I’ll also add that your suspicions of her doing this because she’s cheating on you is the least possibility of why in my mind.

[Fisto]

I appreciate the feedback. Hopefully these conversations go well with her.