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There is this friend who my father can analyze well
Anyway, that person meddles with my vacation plannings. I want to set a short vacation together and the friend is avoidant of questions I ask. I ask A and they either give a half-answer, ask something else or answer something else. And sometimes they don’t even answer. I sent them a long message about how I don’t like it when they do that and they still talk about whatever they’d always answer I was more needy lately, but they are causing me more frustration than benefits I really want to see them but they don’t recept well I feel my condition is deteriorating, and I feel my friends are against me Before you answer, don’t turn black into white and drop this all on me. I know I have allot of stress and need treatment, but I am working on it and it’s none of their business as I see it. I don’t think friendships should be determined by whether I see a mental health professional or not so I keep this to myself |
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It sounds that perhaps this friend isn’t very interested in vacationing together or discussing vacation etc. For whatever reason (can’t tell as don’t know nature of your friendship or character of your friend) your friend doesn’t say it directly to you but rather avoids it all together. I’d probably start making my own plans, not including said friend.
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But he sounds meddling rather than really willing to go for it I have a little bit of bad karma feeling about it, from his side though. Like if I order tickets, he’d not want to talk to me or keep a grudge But to be honest, he should be the one with the bad karma when he chooses to not answer my questions |
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I'm sorry you're having issues with this friend. Do you think he feels that you need to go to therapy and that's why he's avoiding your questions?
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I am not sure about karma, but I would not buy tickets if he doesn’t give you direct answer. It could be waste of money |
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If he has a problem, he can be a friend and tell me Divine - the meddling is putting me on hold of progress when I ask them the questions |
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Is your friend generally the type to be indirect? |
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Can you go without him? It really stinks that he's balking on plans. Are there other factors at play that could be why he won't commit to vacation planning?
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I heard from his close friend that planning things together has always been hard for them when it comes to the big plannings such as travelling abroad
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It might be best to talk to him about this. All we can do on here is speculate.
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My friends are putting allot of weight on me, I feel it is unhealthy to talk to them and continue to be with them I am DYING of over-stress, I can't sleep when at home But when I'm at the apartment it's better. My family is not helping me well regarding how to interact with people outside, they are only destroying me, especially my mother |
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Some people have hard time planning or don’t like to travel with others (even if he originally said he would), maybe he realized he can’t tracel. I’d give him space and make my own place. I have a group of 4 friends, one of whom is very uncommital. We just make our plans, inform her and and if she wants to join she could. Some people are like that. Annoying, but nothing we can do really.
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