My most recent ex boyfriend, Joe, really irked me Sat night.

He showed up at the concert where my boyfriend and I were -- Ok, well, that was to be expected. I knew he would most likely be there.

But he and his new girlfriend moved into a spot right next to me and my boyfriend. He must have seen us standing there as he approached the front. But then they move to a spot right next to us? So I find myself dancing directly next to my ex's new girlfriend. After a while, I felt really awkward. I was trying to talk to my boyfriend, but I felt my ex looking at us, so I suggested we move. My boyfriend also noted my ex was looking at him, or rather staring at him.

So I feel like Joe did this on purpose to maybe show off his new girlfriend in front of me? Why else move to a spot right next to us? I don't know why it irks me so much, but I felt like our space was invaded. And I thought it was disrespectful of him to do this. I would never have done something like that myself. If I saw my ex at a show, I would be sure to stand somewhere away from him and his girlfriend, out of respect.

Now Joe and I did not have a bad ending. It was very amicable in fact. We are still friends on Facebook, and he still comments on some of my posts. He does see all the pics I post of my boyfriend and I, which are a lot. But I thought the whole situation was strange.

My boyfriend thought it was jealousy on his part. Perhaps it was, I have no idea. It was just weird, and I wished they hadn't moved right up next to us so we could have stayed up in the front with all our crew.

Not a huge deal and not something to obsess over, naturally, but it irked me enough to write about it & get it out. I am really just venting.

[divine1966]

I’d take it it’s not the abusive guy as that one lives far? Is that a guy who didn’t want to be exclusive? I’d not give it much thought. It’s kind of common to run into people if you date in your area.

It’s annoying of course he stood by close but what can one do. If he has a girlfriend, it’s fair to assume he isn’t jealous.

We once ran into my husband’s ex (who lives two-three hours away) on vacation 5 hours away in the opposite direction. Granted it’s a popular destination but still, she was there with her mother who is just as vicious as her. We don’t want her to know anything about us because it just gives her more reasons to file for spousal support increase as she still refuses to get a full time job.

Running into exes could be annoying especially if you have no reason to be seeing them: they aren’t part of your life after the break up (kids’ other parent for example).

I hope you won’t run into him too often. Just ignore it if you do

Originally Posted by divine1966

I’d take it it’s not the abusive guy as that one lives far? Is that a guy who didn’t want to be exclusive? I’d not give it much thought. It’s kind of common to run into people if you date in your area.

It’s annoying of course he stood by close but what can one do. If he has a girlfriend, it’s fair to assume he isn’t jealous.

We once ran into my husband’s ex (who lives two-three hours away) on vacation 5 hours away in the opposite direction. Granted it’s a popular destination but still, she was there with her mother who is just as vicious as her. We don’t want her to know anything about us because it just gives her more reasons to file for spousal support increase as she still refuses to get a full time job.

Running into exes could be annoying especially if you have no reason to be seeing them: they aren’t part of your life after the break up (kids’ other parent for example).

I hope you won’t run into him too often. Just ignore it if you do

Thanks, Divine. Yeah, this isn't the distant ex fiance who was abusive. This was the guy who looked at himself in the mirror too much, the guy I dated right after him.

Yeah, it was annoying more than anything. And we wanted to stay up front. I do hope we don't run into him too much again.

[divine1966]

I was just confused as you called him “ex boyfriend”. I didn’t think he was a “boyfriend”.

I think he might have bad social skills and just isn’t polite (I recall him sending inappropriate messages) so he likely has no clue what’s polite behavior. Or maybe he just didn’t think about it twice. Ignore it. Hopefully it’s not a regular occurrence (not like working with someone or living in the same building)

Originally Posted by divine1966

I was just confused as you called him “ex boyfriend”. I didn’t think he was a “boyfriend”.

I think he might have bad social skills and just isn’t polite (I recall him sending inappropriate messages) so he likely has no clue what’s polite behavior. Or maybe he just didn’t think about it twice. Ignore it. Hopefully it’s not a regular occurrence (not like working with someone or living in the same building)

Well, boyfriend status aside, yes, I think you have a good point. He did send that inappropriate text and yes, is probably lacking good social skills. I will ignore it -- and will avoid him if it happens again.