Hi,

I'm new to the Forum. I joined because something my ex posted on social media got me so upset and I realized I need to deal with our breakup even though it happened a long time ago. At that time, I was going through a personal crisis (triggered by the relationship) and pushed all of my feelings and thoughts about the breakup away. As time went on, I didn't think it was 'normal' to still be grieving after such a long time even though I did feel sad when I saw pictures of him moving on with his life... The latest update, however, caused such a strong reaction in me that I knew I couldn't pretend anymore that I wasn't still hurting. I unfollowed him and decided to join this Forum to work through what is still there inside of me concerning the relationship.

[Skeezyks]

Hello letlovego: Welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find the time you spend here to be of benefit.

I see you've already found the relationships & communication forum. Another forum that may be of interest would be the coping with emotions forum Here's a link to that one:

https://forums.psychcentral.com/coping-emotions/

And then here are links to some articles, from PsychCentral's archives, that may be of interest. This looks like a lot of reading! But the articles are short. So it's not as much as it may appear:

https://psychcentral.com/blog/lettin...up-or-divorce/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/new-st...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/help-o...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/12-way...dium=popular17

https://psychcentral.com/blog/3-step...dium=popular17

https://blogs.psychcentral.com/insid...breakup-grief/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/reclai...r-breaking-up/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/learni...ys-to-move-on/

https://psychcentral.com/blog/how-to...from-the-past/

My best wishes to you...

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by letlovego

Hi,

I'm new to the Forum. I joined because something my ex posted on social media got me so upset and I realized I need to deal with our breakup even though it happened a long time ago. At that time, I was going through a personal crisis (triggered by the relationship) and pushed all of my feelings and thoughts about the breakup away. As time went on, I didn't think it was 'normal' to still be grieving after such a long time even though I did feel sad when I saw pictures of him moving on with his life... The latest update, however, caused such a strong reaction in me that I knew I couldn't pretend anymore that I wasn't still hurting. I unfollowed him and decided to join this Forum to work through what is still there inside of me concerning the relationship.

Good to have you here. It's a good place to bounce your situation off of many people that can be supportive and offer advice.

I am curious as to the details? without more than what you've posted about what happened recently and such, there really isn't much to comment on yet.

If you feel comfortable please share what recently happened and how it has affected you

[healingme4me]

Hi letlovego,

I hope you find your way around to find the support that you need. WelcometoPC.jpeg

[AspiringAuthor]

I hurt many years past the dissolution of marriage and just now have decided that I need to grieve and process to move on, so I will be happy to be your partner in recovery from the traumatic experience that we both had a long time ago.

Thank you for your replies!

I don't want to say too much about what happened recently, but basically I found out how my ex has felt about me since our breakup (and so did the rest of the world...) and it's not good. I didn't cheat on him or anything like that, but it was a push-pull relationship because I was so messed up due to past experiences, and I'm sure it drove him crazy.

Anyway, how he feels is his business. I'm just glad, in a way, that I got this trigger so that I can finally deal with my own issues concerning that relationship and finally move on myself. And I'm glad to see there are such lovely people here to help me through it