[CluckyBear]

I was wondering if anyone else here also does this.

Usually I feel like I need an idea of how to be a better, well... me.

Through most of my teenage years (and now) I have been obsessed with latching onto personalities and using them for myself. I can watch interviews of celebrities and be intrigued with the way that they talk, or the jokes that they make. I have randomly chose people such as Jim Carrey, Emilia Clarke, Matthew Perry, or I'll even put on a stone cold, materialistic American Psycho act

(the self-centered part with the wicked morning routine - without the murder part, obviously)

But I'll get annoyed because obviously I'm not them so I can't live as if I have their brain and their thoughts and it usually tires me out.

Sometimes I'll even obsess over using NLP, using my language to make people feel a certain way, or I'll try to study facial expressions (microexpressions/macroexpressions)

I put so much thought into what I look like, say and do it literally drains me. Sometimes when social anxiety takes over and I'm tired I feel like people are thinking "wow, when did you become a monotone *****."

[*Laurie*]

Hi, Honestly, when I was young (teens-20's) I would definitely tend to "slip into" a character I really liked in, say, a movie. That subsided over the years, really.


Sometimes people who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder take on others' personalities/identities because of the terrible emptiness and lack of Self Borderlines feel. That said, I am in NO way indicating that you have BPD!!

Truly, although I have no idea of what you're "about" as far as medical history and such, it sounds like you're a pretty typical young person. What concerns me, actually, is how stressed you sound and that you sound kind of exhausted.

[MickeyCheeky]

I think it's normal, when we admire certain people, that we want to be like them. We want to be better. That happened to myself a couple of times.

[TishaBuv]

When I started elementary school, there was this one popular girl and her clique. Everybody worshipped this girl and thought she was so adorable, how she still sucked her thumb. Some kids even started sucking their thumbs to be like her!

I was unpopular and bullied by this clique. I observed this girl’s behavior and thought about how I could be like her and then I would be adored. But, it didn’t work. And, at least, I wasn’t sucking my thumb like a lemming!

Even if I tried, I could not capture the attributes of whatever made this girl special, and me not.

I discovered acting shortly after. This was the way to invent a new character to be! What a great outlet for someone who likes to mimic! Have you thought about taking an acting class to further develop this “talent”?

[hprodf]

It's pretty normal behaviour, we naturally imitate those we admire or have qualities we would like. This won't be just when young, but something through the course of your life.

There's nothing wrong by adding skills/attributes for self improvement, just don't forget to be yourself when it comes down to it.

[CluckyBear]

Originally Posted by *Laurie*

Hi, Honestly, when I was young (teens-20's) I would definitely tend to "slip into" a character I really liked in, say, a movie. That subsided over the years, really.


Sometimes people who are diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder take on others' personalities/identities because of the terrible emptiness and lack of Self Borderlines feel. That said, I am in NO way indicating that you have BPD!!

Truly, although I have no idea of what you're "about" as far as medical history and such, it sounds like you're a pretty typical young person. What concerns me, actually, is how stressed you sound and that you sound kind of exhausted.

Hi, yeah I think BPD is something that I usually question whether or not I have, crossed over with possibly childhood emotional neglect. I usually question my state of mind a lot because I think - how am I to know if something is wrong, if I have never known any different?

I've never had a therapist before but I'm hoping to see one once I start a new job, I did start to get Zoloft from my doctor but after my mam found the Zoloft I was quickly put off when I found out she was gossiping about it to her family...

[CluckyBear]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

When I started elementary school, there was this one popular girl and her clique. Everybody worshipped this girl and thought she was so adorable, how she still sucked her thumb. Some kids even started sucking their thumbs to be like her!

I was unpopular and bullied by this clique. I observed this girl’s behavior and thought about how I could be like her and then I would be adored. But, it didn’t work. And, at least, I wasn’t sucking my thumb like a lemming!

Even if I tried, I could not capture the attributes of whatever made this girl special, and me not.

I discovered acting shortly after. This was the way to invent a new character to be! What a great outlet for someone who likes to mimic! Have you thought about taking an acting class to further develop this “talent”?

Never knew thumb sucking to be so popular haha.

Through most of my childhood I was more blank canvas and didn't really care for imitating people, or anything for that matter; it was more late teens/college years that this started to happen.

I think acting could be quite interesting, if I win any oscars I'll give you a shoutout haha.

[*Laurie*]

I agree that you might just be a natural actor. Give it a try by getting involved with local theatre!

[seeminglyreal]

Oh yeah, I feel the same way! I saw this post on tumblr recently that said something like "my personality is 30% the last movie I watched" and I couldn't relate more. It happens sort of unconsciously and it usually lasts until the next movie/book/show. The weird thing is, I don't know who I really am under all these layers. Oh well

[Junerain]

I used to imitate my friend's personalities, until late teenage years, when I patched together bits and parts of friend's personalities, until I found my own..