Uncle not fair

Me and my husband are living with my uncle. It seems every single time we point out anything he does wrong, he justifies what he did, everything we do wrong is slapped in our face, we get called "ungrateful" because he took us in, etc... And eventually we have to apologise to him for ever questioning him. Doesn't matter for things big or small or even if we are justified in being angry at him, it's always our fault.

For example beginning of July we gave him extra money to help pay off extra high bill. Instead of paying the bill he secretly just pockets our money... But of course when I actually tried to calmly bring it up with him he goes ballistic... Everything we do wrong thrown in our face again... Etc... We had to apologise to him and promise to never question him because he took us in "out of the kindness of his heart".

This is so wrong but it's probably gonna take awhile to move. My uncle wants us to move to a specific house, but he wants HIS name on the deed, he tends to be greedy, his past crimes include I'd theft of his sick mother and taking over her property.

I'm sorry you have to deal with him. Hang on, at least until you can move and get away from him...

That sounds extremely stressful. If I were you I sure would not put his name on the deed.

My advice is also to not have his name on the deed. Aim to get away from him as soon as you can!

We discussed the house more and he said he was so upset with me because I was harping over 50 dollars while he and my aunt planned on making the down payment on the house for us (ugh, like we could have known that?) But anyway he wanted to eventually own the house himself and rent it to us but I said I would feel better if it was in our name and he claimed it wouldn't be a problem if we promised to make the payments... (I never ever failed to make a housing payment in the past so why would I start now?) Anyway we'll see where this ends up.

House is actually in a good location and I don't want to pass up the possibility, the job interview I have next month if I get that job the house would be only about a 20 minute drive away.

There are other houses if you decide that your priority is to be disentangled from him.

You don’t need to live in the house that he owns. I also wouldn’t take money from him. It gives him too much control. If you can’t buy a house just rent a place. No need to live with uncle