UGH!

this is just ridiculous. tell me if im wrong to be angry at this:
1st some background info: ive been in love with my best friend [ill call her k] for over a year. she found out, blah blah. shes been dating her boyfriend for a year [ill call him j]. j has been in jail for... about 3 months i think [he gets out in late january]. so she always has told me every little detail about their relationship, giving no thought to how i feel about it. anyway. so now: we have this friend [who ill call a]. k has now decided that shes kinda in love with a [who is a girl too fyi]. and a is in love with this other girl and k has decided that she wont talk to a because she "cant deal with it". what about me? what about the crap i had to listen to for the past YEAR?!?!?! oh my GOD!!!

how fast can you run? get out of there unless you like it in some way?!

Emotions aren't right or wrong. If you think of your anger like the warning light on your car, it may be telling you that you need to do something different. Take care.

k is not talking to a because she can't deal with it. So, why are you still talking to k if you can't deal with it? You can't make someone else love you and you're masochistic if you still around allowing yourself to be hurt?

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k is not talking to a because she can't deal with it. So, why are you still talking to k if you can't deal with it? You can't make someone else love you and you're masochistic if you still around allowing yourself to be hurt?

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yes. i am masochistic. and k is talking to a, bcs a got mad that she wasnt talking to her. its a huge mess really. but whatever

So to sum up: (k + j)a = Kandi going crazy.

Not a great equation. I'd remove myself from it if I were you (easier said than done I know).

Cyran0

"(k + j)a = Kandi going crazy."
yeah pretty much, nice way of putting it.
no, removing myself isnt even an option. oh well.

sounds like a boat load worth of drama about to bust out on everyone. I'd def. advoid it. Tell her how you feel and leave it at that. Either she embraces it or don't.

too many letters. i got confused. which means leave it alone. if i cant follow the story line i leave the situation. lol. did all that drama crap in high school - now its just annoying. can you just let everything go in one ear and out the other?

have you really sat down and wondered why you would like someone who does this kind of thing? i think maybe if you take an outside look at the situation you would find that someone who toys with people is not the person you would want and maybe you just idolize her, not really love her. its hard to tell the difference sometimes but if you can it may save you lots of heartache.

she doesnt toy with people...
i hate that everyones getting such a bad impression of my best friend, who i love more than anything.

My dear, I think it is not so much the bad impression anyone is getting (which they may not be), but that they want you to be okay and happy...

It sounds like you are hurt at k's behavior, rather than angry? That's understandable based on how much you love k. But if k were to do things the way "you" want, as nice as that sounds, she'd be your "puppet" and that wouldn't be any fun.

You sound like a good friend and that's always important. It could be that k will need that, come "back" to considering you seriously and like what she sees. I wouldn't say much or act on your love, just be "steadfast" as a good friend and see if things change in a bit?

yeah im definitely never going to do anything about it. i dont even mention it.

and:
clyde