a person says they care about you
but you find it hard to tell by there actions.
theyre are days when yu know they do
but then days when its like why would they do this to me

does this ever happen to anyone.
do u ever find yourself unsure of who your true friends are
do you ever find it so hard to trust someone
even when u tell yourself i trust ___
but then do u really second guess it. i do.

maybe its just me though.

[curley]

I can not even count how many times this has happended to me. But you know what I have always found as the truth. If someone cares about you they show you.by the way they treat you and the things they do. NO matter what! NO matter, friend, boyfriend, anyone. If you have the feeling you can not trust someone, MOST of the time those "feelings" are right on.
A person can tell you they are your friend, or that they love you, but remember, Actions speak louder then words!!!!!!

[chaotic13]

I second guess myself on just about everything, This is especially true when attempting to determine what type of relationship I have with someone. I find it very difficult to accurately judge another person's sincerity and if they are an appropriate person for me to trust.

[Rhapsody]

This has happened to me more than I like to count...... it just seems like in this day and age ACTIONS do NOT speak louder than WORDS, therefore, we have to take people at their word - which btw is hard some times, for our deep inner emotional needs wants to see the LoVe & Care in order to feel it.

[Direction]

I'm left confused many times...trust is a pretty big hurdle...I find myself mistrusting others unfortunately until they prove me wrong...Not one of my better ideas...

[msinfiniti]

I have serious trust issues with most people. As soon as I don't hear from them or get what I am used to getting from them I start to think something is wrong.

I agree with Rhapsody.....I don't think actions speak louder than words either. At times you have to just go with your gut. Sometimes it's not possible to go by what people do or say anymore because everyone is so different nowadays with their own personal problems and what not.

If someone is a real friend you will eventually get what you deserve from them and they will recognize your ability to be a true friend to them and they will appreciate it and act accordingly.

Thats my two cents. Hope that makes sense.

Truly, the one who decides if another is a friend is YOU. You have total freedom to decide how you accept another person in your life. That other person may respect you, feel that the friendship is strong or solid enough to criticize you about something, or love you to pieces.....but it doesn't mean they think like we do. If you find yourself questioning if somebody is your friend, you have to ask yourself if that person is giving you what you need in a friendship. Only you can answer that question.

[old_one]

Ingridave2 had a good point. Relationships are so subjective. Its really a judgment call. We are also likely to misread actions, and words, of others because we are all so different. You may think someone cares for you more than they really do and end up hurt and disappointed, or you may not see how much someone really does care and end up hurting them.

Communication in any relationship is hard but irreplacable. If you are not sure why someone is acting in a certain way, ask them about it. If you think they are treating you in a way you don't like, tell them. Guessing and making assumptions just leads to heartache. Either yours or theirs, or both.

Excellent point old_one. Too often we make judgments without inquiring. We assume too often and that can solely be based on our moods at the time which are being influenced by something unrelated.

Where has the confidence gone? We lack confidence in our own judgment, we lack confidence in others we once did trust, confidence in friendship and family. Has society made us too cynical and mistrusting? We need to allow ourselves to feel love at times. Simple love for things we normally pass by or over.

[PsychJoey01]

Court Knee:

Personality plays a role in everyone and that we hold them in a standard expectation's built for ourselves. You will feel resentful when loveone don't exactly do what we expect them to do you will be better off not to expect anything just say whatever and leave it with that, do for what makes you happy don't expect anyone to do that for you.

The role is take care of you.