[skyedonielle]

Hello I need some help. My boyfriend of almost 5 years has ended things with me. He believes I love someone else because I did something really stupid. I asked a psychic about a guy from my past and when my boyfriend found out he believed that means I love this other guy. I love my boyfriend with all my heart and I never wanted things to end with us. He is the one I want to marry, have children with, I adore him. I dont know how to change his mind, or make him see how much I love him.

[Skeezyks]

Hello skyedonielle: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to PsychCentral! I hope you find PC to be of benefit.

I'm sorry you find yourself to be in this difficult situation. (Perhaps your bf will have a change of heart & come back on his own?) Unfortunately I don't know as there is a lot I can suggest in the way of a solution. The reality here is that you only have control over yourself & what you do. If your bf is determined to end your relationship I, at least, don't know of any way to change his mind. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will have some suggestions.

One thing that does occur to me is that if your bf was so easily moved to end your relationship, perhaps he was not as invested in the relationship to begin with as you are. My wife & I are older people. We've been married for 38 years. And I can tell you it takes an ocean liner's worth of forgiveness & compassion (plus downright stubbornness) to keep a relationship going for that long. Yes, perhaps what you did was silly. Perhaps it was less than thoughtful. I personally don't think it was stupid. And I have to tell you that, were you & your bf to marry & have children, there would be many infinitely more serious challenges the two of you would have to face as the years go by. I know you said you adore this gentleman. But, if he's willing to walk away this easily, perhaps it was for the best.

Here are links to 3 articles, from PsychCentral's archives, on the subject of how to mend a broken heart:

10 Tips to Mend a Broken Heart

12 Ways to Mend a Broken Heart

Help on Healing from Heartbreak

My best wishes to you...

It does sound like a misunderstanding. Can you talk to him about it and explain yourself? Perhaps leave him a message, let him know it's a huge misunderstanding, that he's the one you love and want to marry.... and that you're not hung up on an ex. You'll just have to have a good reason why you were asking a psychic about your ex....

[MickeyCheeky]

I agree with golden - try to contact him and explain everything.