I've had it with my husband.

Yes, that's pretty much what he was told the last time he did go in. It's not going to do any good unless he wants it, he's not going to want it unless he sees the need for it, and he doesn't see the need for it because he has been able to hold a job in the same career for well over 30 years. As far as he's concerned, if he can work and pay bills (which is apparently all there is to life) then he has nothing to work on.

We know he also has PTSD. Both of us came from abusive backgrounds. The biggest difference is that his family was middle-class while mine was poor. He at least had his basic needs met. I was neglected. I suffered CSA while he did not. Deep down he knows he does have this problem--he sometimes still has nightmares at night--but he doesn't see it as anything he needs help for. I'm more "broken" than he is, so therefore he's not broken at all.

I've been following your thread. I have no words of wisdom, advise or any ideas. The "can't tell me what to do" resonated with me as being a very real thing that goes on in many relationships.

I hope you can at least find a way to get it through to him how you want him to help you getting up from being seated.

PTSD complicates everything. My husband receives VA disability for having PTSD from serving in the army during the Vietnam war.

Yes, passive aggressive. I would say make sure he has time for things he likes to do and some treats and some thank you s. I keep forgetting the praise because I get so frustrated that he doesn’t like to talk. So I go for a 3 hr yak fest w my bff every week. If I had it to do over I would live w a woman who likes to talk and understands bipolar.