[toughbird]

Hi All

Here is the link of my previous story.

https://forums.psychcentral.com/rela...ould-i-go.html

So after finally getting a hold of this guy. We sat down to have a chat.

He informed me he only told me what I wanted to hear via needing time and space to think about working on his commitment. Doesn't want commitment.

Told me he doesn't want to commit to me nor anyone ever. Said he is willing to give things another go. His willing to see how things go. He doesn't mind dating and hanging out. But only wants companionship and not looking for love. Said he doesn't love me. Just only sees me as a close friend. Isn't looking for love.

Said he finds it diffciult to text, phone and iniate plans when he knows I love him. Would find it a lot easier if I didn't love him.

Said he stopped coming over to my house as I was pressuring him into having sex everytime he came over.

Said his rubbish at close relationships and doesn't have much experience. However, friendships work better for him.

He enjoys going to the pub. However, most times prefers to stay indoors.

Either I accept to dating him which only comes with hanging out and compantionship. Or I walk away?

So what do YOU want? Seems you’re getting a raw deal. If u love him and he doesn't love you or even want love, why stay? You’re getting short changed. I don't really understand why you would consider it.

[BlossomingLen]

It really depends on what you want. If these more intimate aspects of relationships are something that you see as important, then you shouldn't go for it. If you're offended by his words, by his lack of closeness, etc., then don't do it.

But if you are willing to give it a chance and believe that it's a good idea, you could try. There's no real harm in giving it a shot in that regard.

I would've completely turned him down. Then again, many people see the appeal of all kinds of relationships. So maybe it could go well for you.

You need to look deep down in your heart and figure out what appeals to you. What you see as important. If you have any doubts.

If you aren't sure, please give yourself some time to think it over. Make peace with yourself and your inner conflict; by talking to other people, making friends, meditating, taking walks, focusing on other aspects of your life, or anything that could mellow everything out. Find a healthy distraction from the problem, and when you're ready to think about it, ponder what you want.

Either way, I wish you the best of luck. As long as the decision you make gives you happiness, then that's all you need.