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Paypal! Wow, I can't keep up with all the change happening thanks to digital technology. Thanks for explaining.
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I think you guys were right. Despite what she has told me, seems she just tells me what I want to hear. She's been hanging around her friends and back when we met up she told me in the car she wants me to come with her when she goes out, never invites me though. Text me a few days ago thanks for that loan, how she really appreciates me, thanks for all the support I gave her. What happened to the day she said she wants a small group of close friends? or that what I did for her she now has time for people that matter to her? why am I not someone that matters to her?she did say what I did for her is why she's at her dream job now. Just a chump I guess. She keeps being happy I will be calling her but I aint calling her now.
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((((Human3284)))) I'm so sorry you're struggling.
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Nothing I can do. I already had the talk with her when we met up and she acted convinced she was serious. I don't get why she wants me to phone her when she really wants nothing to do with me. Nor do I know what I did to deserve this...we only hang out a few times a year and wanted more time to hang out with her, want her to call me along with me calling her.
The reality is...I REALLY miss the summer of 2017 and think back constantly to those days when we were extremly close, but I have no idea how I am supposed to grow this "friendship" when it seems like just me who wants it. I still read our old text convos from summer 2017 on my old phone. |
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Human - there are other people in the world. Give someone else a chance.
Put your wallet away. Offer your time and interest to others. Let go of 2017. It's history. Soon it will be 2019. It will come with opportunities. Be alert for them. You won't even spot them. if you're living in the past. Sometimes life won't give us the exact, specific thing or person we want. So you see what else and who else is available. Or you can say: "No, I want what I want , and I'm not settling for anything else." It's like holding your breath till you turn blue because the exact outcome you wanted didn't come about. That is being a chump. You have to be flexible . . . ready to switch plans . . . ready to change what you target. Life laughs at us when we're not. It is hurtful to find that a bond you thought existed isn't there. I've felt the pain. You want to ask the person - "Why? What happened?" Sometimes you just don't get an answer. There's no law of the Universe that says we have a right to get answers to what puzzles or perplexed us. Somethings we'll just never know . . . never understand. It takes some humility to accept that. That's the road to wisdom, IMHO. Stop picking at a wound, and it can heal. |
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I will slowly distance myself from her until we both don't realize we aren't communicating and life goes on. Idk what I will do if she noticed we had not talked in a long time and asks what happened, probably just tell her the truth and maybe one day we would reconnect when we are older or something. She text me when I book an appointment (massage therapist) it's free of charge, but I told her I rather pay for it, you know to support the new biz. Quote:
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Something poped into my mind, was wondering if this is true or just a part of my negative thinking that I need to get away from somehow?
So she was going to phone me Tuesday but I got tired and text her I was going to bed, looked like she was looking forward to talking to me but anyway I called her and we talked for an hour today, talked about a bunch of stuff including what about phone calls? like if she likes them or if people call her often? Nobody calls her, not even her sister and said she guesses nobody likes talking on the phone, said I would call her once a month and she was ok with that. She does not keep in contact with anyone by the sounds of it, they all have to text or call her to stay around. But she said she's not talked to one of these girls in a loooong time and should invite her over. What popped into my head was...when I asked to see her place she just said it's too messy and would have to clean up, but the person she not seen in a long time was going to visit her at her place so she must really hate me or something and maybe she's only put up with me because she feels guilty for taking all that money and doesn't have the heart to tell me to beat it? Like I said, I am going to slowly push myself away from her but I will be thankful for all the amazing times I had with her, especially that 1 summer we got really close even if we only saw eachother because I was giving her money, October we only hung out because she felt guilty for the guy at my work saying she used me for my money since I told her asap what happened. She also has not text me "xo" or "Was thinking of you" anymore either, even at midnight like that 1 time, not for a long time. It hurts but maybe I will find someone who cares about me, I doubt it lol. Last edited by Human3284; Nov 24, 2018 at 03:32 AM.. |
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((((Human3284)))) You will find someone else... you're very kind and sweet. Many hugs
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It does sound like she was using you for your money. I had someone do that to me one time (it was not a romantic thing, but she kept asking me for money, and I kept giving it to her because I felt sorry for her). She finally revealed her true colors when I told her I couldn't drive her wherever she wanted to go anymore (she's blind and can't drive). She got mad and texted me some hateful things and called me the C word. So I blocked her. I will never talk to her again. I know I won't get my money back (she's on disability and doesn't have much money) but a clean break can feel really good. I recommend you doing that.
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