[MickeyCheeky]

Have you ever met some people in your life that you admired very much, to the point that you wanted to be like them, and started to act similarly? What do you guys think? Is it an healthy or unealthy thing to do?

[divine1966]

No, can’t say I have that experience but I don’t think it’s wrong if you immitate some good behavior traits. Do you have specific examples?

[Bill3]

A lot of moral education was and often still is the imitation of great people, such as the great leaders of Ancient Rome (as in Plutarch’s writing). The same is true of studying the lives of saints.

I myself have admired specific people, including people on this site, and tried to be more like them.

[MickeyCheeky]

Thanks for replying What I mean to say is that I try to learn from these people if I can and be more like them.. for example if someone is very smart, or very kind, I'll try to be like that as well.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Thanks for replying What I mean to say is that I try to learn from these people if I can and be more like them.. for example if someone is very smart, or very kind, I'll try to be like that as well.

I think it’s healthy. It probably wouldn’t be if you immitate how they dress or some superficial stuff but looking up to good behaviors and traits is just fine

[Bill3]

For example, I admire the interest and compassion that MickeyCheeky and divine and others consistently demonstrate on this site. I try to learn from them.

[Borderline69]

There is a fine line between admiration and people worshipping. Personally I have no desire to imatate anyone. Our flaws no matter how cringeworthy they are is what makes us unique, I'd rather do a real impression of myself than a bad impression of someone else. You can say to yourself I'd like to be more like X in X way however if you are not naturally behaving in X way to begin with than changing who you are will make you appear fake. I've never been a sheeple or practicing people worshipping , noone is so important that they need to be put up on some high pedestal, NOONE, not even royalty. People who worship others make themselves look small and insignificant. We are all equal and should treat one another as such.

[s4ndm4n2006]

I think that on some level almost everyone does this to a certain extent. We tend to pick up on behaviors of other people that whose behavior and appearance is something that we admire and/or are attracted to.

of course I think some people more than others but in any case for the most part it's very natural and normal behavior.

[ShadowGX]

Yep, I do that a lot. I've even done it in small ways without noticing right away. For example, 2 common things I do now - use a ":p" emote and using "yeh" instead of "yeah" - I picked up from someone who was in a leadership position over me in a gaming clan and I really admired a lot of traits about him. I still admire him in some ways. He's been through a lot in his personal life (we became good friends to the point I know more about him than some IRL friends of his) and despite all of the horrible things in his past is now leading a pretty healthy life and doing good things with his past experiences to help kids that are going through similar.

I tend to gravitate towards people who I think I can learn from it seems. Like current favorite person, he's also very strong emotionally and determined and I admire that a lot.

I find myself saying things other people say sometimes. It’s usually somebody I like and who I think is funny. Seems pretty normal to me. I don’t think it’s something I deliberately do though.

[Saunder]

[QUOTE=MickeyCheeky;6227251]Thanks for replying What I mean to say is that I try to learn from these people if I can and be more like them.. for example if someone is very smart, or very kind, I'll try

You're already very kind. Seem smart also. When I grow up, hope I can be more like you. Unfortunately, I'm in my late 60's. Not likely to happen.

[MickeyCheeky]

I think it's never too late... Also I think you're doing great they way you are.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Have you ever met some people in your life that you admired very much, to the point that you wanted to be like them, and started to act similarly? What do you guys think? Is it an healthy or unealthy thing to do?

Absolutely! Starting with my father--I am grateful and impressed with how patient and kind he has always been with me (this is not easy because I was a hyperactive and rebellious child. ) I have tried to imitate some of his good traits, suceeding somewhat, and now realizing I adopted both good and bad traits. Of course, some of my traits are completely my own--they are the unique temperament I was born with.

There were/are some family members, high school/college friends, coworkers and supervisors which I admired. They were the ones I spent time with or sought advice from. When you spend a lot of time with a friend you admire--you start adopting some of their phrases and philosophy. When you admire, like and/or love someone--you are more open to considering and adopting parts of their point of view.

Is it healthy? I don't worry about whether it is healthy or not. I just enjoy getting to know people and noticing things about them that I admire then considering their unique POVs. We can learn so much from others including people on PC. We're never going to be exactly like people we admire and spend time with--I think it is more like we adopt our own version of their influences.

[MickeyCheeky]

I think what you're saying is right. Thank you for the wise post