Early signs that someone is faking or exaggerating a crisis to take advantage of me

What are some early signs that someone is faking or exaggerating a crisis to take advantage of me?

I ask for "early" signs because I usually don't find out until at least a year later, when the lent money is unreturned, or after I have exhausted so much time, energy, and resources in helping someone...or too deeply involved to get out quickly out of the relationship.

What are the early signs that the crisis someone is claiming is not legitimate or have been blown out of proportion?

Someone having a crisis where they are wanting to take money from you is a warning sign in itself.

For me, it's those people who try to become "best friends" with you overnight.
They tell you all of their problems upfront and they're always going through a lot of **** & they drag you into it.

And as fast as they come, they leave you just as quickly.
Especially if you don't buy their BS. Moving on to the next prey.


How To Spot Fake Friends

I completely agree with TishaBuv

I had to cut someone like that out of my life. I didn't realize it as soon as I should, I think. With her there was always drama; she'd go out of her way to create drama if there wasn't any. For example she is epileptic and wouldn't take her meds, which caused her to have seizueres. Then, there were the wild stories. She would say things like her boyfriend's family was poisoning her, etc. One mutual friend still believes her and pays bills for her, etc. I don't understand why she doesn't see it.

Originally Posted by TishaBuv:
Someone having a crisis where they are wanting to take money from you is a warning sign in itself.

Sameee!
I paid for a friend's bills onetime. She started to avoid me afterwards.

A year later she texted me apologizing and I gave her a second chance. She never paid me back (which I didn't care, I was just hurt that she'd choose money over our friendship) and I was happy that we were friends again and that she got back on her feet. I justified it by thinking that she was just going through a lot.

But guess what?
She let me down again after a while.

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me!

She was always complaining about her low-paying job and her crappy boyfriend and sucked all the good energy out of me. I literally had to tell her that I could not talk to her anymore because she is so GD toxic. I wish her the best but no thank you.