[xmascarol]

I have a friend who is abused by her husband and her daughter they are so very mean to her she is so sick they won't help her out all they do is call her names and yell at her,I try to be there for her she needs me,i love her I wish I could help her,take care of her .Her husband is very abusive and so is her daughter. I really wish I could do something for her,i try to do my best.

[Skeezyks]

There are some articles, in PsychCentral's archives, on this very subject. Unfortunately I can't provide you with links to them. (See my thread re: Question regarding the PsychCentral search bar on Bing.)

I suppose one question here is... is it your friend who doesn't want help or is it her husband & daughter who don't want her to have it? Perhaps though, in the end, it doesn't matter. The bottom line is, either way, you're not able to help your friend & your friend isn't receiving the help it sounds like she needs.

Depending on where you live, there might be govermental or human services organizations you could contact that might be able to help. That may or may not be the case where you live though. If not, I'm afraid there may not be a lot you can do beyond continuing to be there for your friend & to be as supportive as you feel you can be under the circumstances. Thank you for caring though.

P.S. Thankfully the search bar is now back. So here are links to the articles I mentioned above:

Denial is a Powerful Impediment to Treatment

How to Persuade Your Loved One to Seek Professional Help

11 Ways to Help a Loved One in Denial

12 Ways to Help Someone Dealing with Domestic Violence | The Exhausted Woman

Victims of Emotional Abuse | The Recovery Expert

[xmascarol]

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

There are some articles, in PsychCentral's archives, on this very subject. Unfortunately I can't provide you with links to them. (See my thread re: Question regarding the PsychCentral search bar on Bing.)

I suppose one question here is... is it your friend who doesn't want help or is it her husband & daughter who don't want her to have it? Perhaps though, in the end, it doesn't matter. The bottom line is, either way, you're not able to help your friend & your friend isn't receiving the help it sounds like she needs.

Depending on where you live, there might be govermental or human services organizations you could contact that might be able to help. That may or may not be the case where you live though. If not, I'm afraid there may not be a lot you can do beyond continuing to be there for your friend & to be as supportive as you feel you can be under the circumstances. Thank you for caring though.

P.S. Thankfully the search bar is now back. So here are links to the articles I mentioned above:

Denial is a Powerful Impediment to Treatment

How to Persuade Your Loved One to Seek Professional Help

11 Ways to Help a Loved One in Denial

12 Ways to Help Someone Dealing with Domestic Violence | The Exhausted Woman

Victims of Emotional Abuse | The Recovery Expert

We live in Ct ,she has been to the womans shelter but she said she didnt like it there.Actually she is afraid to leave because she is afraid her husband will find her.The problem is she lets her husband and daughter get away with it.The yelling and name calling.I would never say f to my mom,

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you and your friend are struggling, xmascarol Is it possible to call the police? Why didn't she like the woman shelter? It may be her only hope. Remember that you can only do so much to help, since she's the one that has to make the first move. I understand it's not easy, though. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, I hope everything turns out ok

So, she is being abused, and doesn't want you to help her when you try to? Or she wants help, but you don't know how to help her?

[xmascarol]

Originally Posted by Aimless Soul

So, she is being abused, and doesn't want you to help her when you try to? Or she wants help, but you don't know how to help her?

I think I know how to help but she just doesnt seem to want it.She is really afraid of her husband and daughter.How sad is this the only time she can talk to me on the phone is when they are both out.I have heard him barking in the back ground one time I told him off and he called me a witch but with a b if you know what I mean.

[xmascarol]

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm so sorry you and your friend are struggling, xmascarol Is it possible to call the police? Why didn't she like the woman shelter? It may be her only hope. Remember that you can only do so much to help, since she's the one that has to make the first move. I understand it's not easy, though. I'm so sorry you have to deal with this, I hope everything turns out ok

HOney I wanted to call the police even told her to but she wont let me.She said the woman shelter was bad I dont know why,I am her only friend.I love here so much we are sisters not blood related but sisters anyway.