so I know 2 people.

this guy likes a girl but the girl doesn't feel the same way about him- it's to the point where the guy gets all dressed up for her, buys her presents, etc, but the girl doesn't give him the reaction he wants- then he gets angry and frustrated, even saying that it's because of her he feels suicidal and that if he can't have her, then no one loves him

sometimes she'll apologize and he will too for being how he was, but soon as she's out of site he'll start again about how everything is her fault and that life simply isn't worth living.

I don't like either people but deal with them on quite a regular bases, and to be quite honest, I'm sick of the roundabout drama (I think deep down they both know they arn't right for each other), the girl's even said she's not ready for a relationship.

do I interveene now?. or just let it play out

if it's making him feel this bad, I should really do something

but hmm I don't know. it's not really my place to get in to the middle of their drama

I don't see why they just can't sit down sensibly and talk it out

[sarahsweets]

Personally I try and live drama free having been a former drama junkie. I would separately tell them both that you do not want to talk to them about each other, that its not your business and that you will steer clear of engaging with them in it anymore.

[saidso]

Originally Posted by sarahsweets

Personally I try and live drama free having been a former drama junkie. I would separately tell them both that you do not want to talk to them about each other, that its not your business and that you will steer clear of engaging with them in it anymore.

cool suggestion, never thought to do that before but it would get me out of some stupid situations.

[lizardlady]

I agree with sarahsweets. Stay out of it and let them work it out, or not.

[Mopey]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

I don't see why they just can't sit down sensibly and talk it out

Probably because they’re not sensible, Vortex!

[Travelinglady]

As my son would say, "It's not my zoo and not my monkey." Yes, stay out of it. It's nice that you care, though.

[divine1966]

No you shouldn’t interfere. But you could make it known that you aren’t interested listening about their drama.

[healingme4me]

I agree about letting each know that it's not what you choose to be involved in as far as discussions are concerned.
It's ok to not play the role of middleman. Being one lends credence to the expression "don't shoot the messenger." That's not a pleasant role to be in.

[downandlonely]

Yes, I agree with everyone else. Tell them you don't want to talk about it with them.

In your situation, I might tell the guy to leave the girl alone. It's clear she doesn't want to date him and there's no way he can change her mind. Frankly, if I were the girl I would feel harassed.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by raging vortex

so I know 2 people.

this guy likes a girl but the girl doesn't feel the same way about him- it's to the point where the guy gets all dressed up for her, buys her presents, etc, but the girl doesn't give him the reaction he wants- then he gets angry and frustrated, even saying that it's because of her he feels suicidal and that if he can't have her, then no one loves him

sometimes she'll apologize and he will too for being how he was, but soon as she's out of site he'll start again about how everything is her fault and that life simply isn't worth living.

I don't like either people but deal with them on quite a regular bases, and to be quite honest, I'm sick of the roundabout drama (I think deep down they both know they arn't right for each other), the girl's even said she's not ready for a relationship.

do I interveene now?. or just let it play out

if it's making him feel this bad, I should really do something

but hmm I don't know. it's not really my place to get in to the middle of their drama

You deal with them on the basis that you have to, I'm assuming for some reason. if you don't even care for them why would you care to even intervene to try to advise on this and does it seem to you like either of them would actually listen? They are adults, I assume and if they don't see the silliness of what they are doing with each other what makes you think you'll open their eyes? Even if they were worth your time and energy! I mean it sounds like a repeated affair to me, and they are playing a game with each other.

If neither of them come to you for advice on this, it's not going to likely be welcome that you come and try to inform them on their behavior.

Aside from all that, you dont' have to be a part of the drama or in the midst of it do you? If he or she starts to complain about how the other is at fault blah blah blah, you can, walk away, tell them you don't want to hear it, aren't involved.

In fact, by advising or "intervening" you will be doing exactly that which you don't want to be - getting involved. not only will you be having to hear about it, you're willingly placing yourself smack dab in the middle of the warzone. I dont' recommend it.

Honestly, minimize your contact and walk away when the drama comes up. respectfully ask not to be involved or shared with about it.