[Butterfly1971]

I jumped into a new relationship without much time in between my divorce and having met him. I love my boyfriend. He broke trust when he messaged other women early in our relationship though ...I forgave him. I am having a hard time not remembering what I read on his phone...hard to tell him of my insecurity moments as he does not like to talk about feelings. He didn’t think he was cheating when he did it. I saw it as cheating. I confronted him and he begged me to come back. I’m in my 40’s...he’s in his 50’s. We get along great! I just worry that it viuld be continuing with the other women...one of whom he refuses to unfriendly on Facebook...he works with her...what are your opinions on this?

[healingme4me]

Hard to say. What types of exchanges were these? Was there romantic history with any of these women? If things were strictly platonic on both sides then it's nothing to stress over.

[Iloivar]

If he doesn't want to discuss feelings. At least ask him to discuss and establish boundaries, perhaps come to a compromise. In a calm and rational manner. If ever you feel your temper flaring up, let him know and walk away until you've cooled down.

However, have you ever asked why he doesn't like talking feelings? Maybe inquiring about that might open the door for more productive conversation?

[sarahsweets]

What were the reasons you got divorced?

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry, Butterfly1971 I think it's weird he doesn't want to talk about feelings. I feel like that's a fundamental quality in any serious relationship. I think you need to evalute what are the pros and cons of this relationship. What makes you attracted to him? What kind of messages he sent to these other women? Maybe you do need to let some time pass before starting a new relationship. Try to think about that. Talk about this with your boyfriend if you can. Sending many hugs to you