[wheredoigofromhere]

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Hi all - I have never posted in this section before, but just needed to share the latest development in my life -- I have finally decided to end a relationship I have been in for over a year, I have known for a while it was not good, and I haven't really been happy. I know now this is what I have to do. He is very unsupportive, not there for me when I need him most, etc., etc., thinks any kind of mental illness is "all in your head" -- which gets me irate when trying to explain that depression is an illness, a chemical imbalance, that can't just be "gotten over". Anyway, I feel better now that I have made the decision to move on, cause I deserve better!!! <font color="#880000"> </font>

I'm so glad you are being positive and strong about this....have you tried to talk about it first though? good luck and here for you anytime, Jinny xxx

[sabby]

I wish you well in your move out of an unsupportive relationship. I'm sure since you said you have known it for awhile that you need to move on, that you have given it plenty of thought and done the best you can to make it work. I remember going through that mindset when I broke off my relationships with my ex's.

Good luck and keep up the great positive attitude!


sabby

[_Hope_]

it is great that you are so positive , sometimes I get the greatest relief when I finally make a hard decision

Good luck

Linda

[LuLu80]

It took a lot of strength to do what you did! I recently went through a breakup for different reasons, but I understand how hard it is. I have a family member who thinks I "choose" to be depressed and there's nothing more frustrating. I hope you are able to find someone who understands and empathizes with your illness, you deserve it.

[wheredoigofromhere]

Wow, thanks so much for the great support all. ....

Yes, we have tried to talk many times. The sad thing is, he doesn't see that there is a problem.... he doesn't really understand, it's like sometimes I feel like he sees me as he wants to, not as I REALLY am... We have gone on 'breaks' in the past, (my idea), and I have always gone back, I have become very attached to his kids (5 and 7 years old), partly I had a need to be part of a "family" (my kids are 21 and 19) -- but I just realize now that we are too different for it to work. Also he can be very possessive and controlling, which I can't tolerate. Never an easy decision, but there comes a point, as a good friend said to me, "sometimes it's better to be alone for the right reasons, than with someone for the wrong reasons".

Good for you! It sounds like you have a very positive outlook on the future. I hope things get better for you.

[AAAAA]

You really do deserves someone that will love and understand you, all of you.