I’m working on managing tense situations better. I pick up on tension very quickly and I’m very sensitive to it, even when it has nothing to do with me. I have a tendency to babble when I’m nervous. When tensions kick up at work or with family situations... any tension... I get uncomfortable and start babbling away. Ugh. Its embarrassing and I’m mad at myself when I do it. What are some diversion tactics you use to cope with tension in a room? Often I just leave the room but that’s not always an option.

[Open Eyes]

It's just something you use to self sooth. Some people tap their feet and some people shake their feet, some people chew their pencils, some choose to doodle on paper, some twist their hair, some like to play with their jewelry, or fiddle with their watch or even their shirt buttons, some chew their fingernails, or tap their pencils on the desk, with all these hand held computer phones some distract by using those.

[MickeyCheeky]

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Sisabel I completely agree with what Open Eyes has already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest to listen to her if you can and want! She always has some great advice! I don't believe you need to be ashamed of yourself because of it. It's not your fault after all. I'm not sure how can you control it though. Babbling is very common though, so I don't think it should be a problem for the people you're talking to. Still, I understand why it may be annoying. Please don't give up! Keep trying your best. That's all you can do after all. Sending many hugs to you, Sisabel

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

It's just something you use to self sooth. Some people tap their feet and some people shake their feet, some people chew their pencils, some choose to doodle on paper, some twist their hair, some like to play with their jewelry, or fiddle with their watch or even their shirt buttons, some chew their fingernails, or tap their pencils on the desk, with all these hand held computer phones some distract by using those.

Good point! I hadn’t thought of it that way! Perhaps I need a different way to self soothe... I don’t like the babbling. But you’re right. I’m just trying to distract or distance myself from the discomfort.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Sisabel I completely agree with what Open Eyes has already wisely said better than I ever could! I'd suggest to listen to her if you can and want! She always has some great advice! I don't believe you need to be ashamed of yourself because of it. It's not your fault after all. I'm not sure how can you control it though. Babbling is very common though, so I don't think it should be a problem for the people you're talking to. Still, I understand why it may be annoying. Please don't give up! Keep trying your best. That's all you can do after all. Sending many hugs to you, Sisabel

Thank you. I appreciate the hugs and support. I hadn’t thought about this being a common thing that people do.

[Fuzzybear]

(((((((( hugs ))))))))

Hi Sisabel.

Do you think you can wear a ring, or a bracelet that reminds you to take a deep breath? It doesn't have to have the engraving, "breathe." Only you know that you are wearing it as a reminder to yourself.

Originally Posted by ennie

Hi Sisabel.


Do you think you can wear a ring, or a bracelet that reminds you to take a deep breath? It doesn't have to have the engraving, "breathe." Only you can know that you are wearing it as a reminder to yourself.

That’s a good suggestion. I’ve been wondering what to replace the babbling behavior with. I’ve been doing it so long that I will need something to put in it’s place and something like this could work.