[Aubrey43]

I hate mother's day! I'm headed out to see my mum in a bit and I'm dreading it. I know she's terrible for my mental health, but I feel obliged to see her and give gifts. I'm trying to persuade myself this is a chance to simply observe her interactions with me in light of recent developments in therapy. Trying to see it as an experiment thing instead of a triggering thing? Anyone else hating this Sunday?

[healingme4me]

I almost forgot that it was the International date. I usually enjoy this one, for whatever reason my children and I have wonderful, pressure free days together.

For other reasons, I dread the American Mother's Day due to grief. And because it's societal pressure to celebrate.

[Purple Heart]

Originally Posted by Aubrey43

I hate mother's day! I'm headed out to see my mum in a bit and I'm dreading it. I know she's terrible for my mental health, but I feel obliged to see her and give gifts. I'm trying to persuade myself this is a chance to simply observe her interactions with me in light of recent developments in therapy. Trying to see it as an experiment thing instead of a triggering thing? Anyone else hating this Sunday?

So why do you attend if you hate the day and dread it? Where is the obligation coming from? Why do you torture yourself by going if you hate spending the day with your mother? For me I decided several years ago to stop celebrating Mother's Day for my mother due to the way she treats me (past & present). I've decided I'm going to be true to myself and act on my best interests, not the needs of my mother. Society tells us to celebrate our mothers, there's an inference that all mothers are good people who lovingly raised their sons and daughters. The reality is that some mothers are bad mothers.

PH