Do you ever listen to Dr. Laura? If yes, has her advice and message helped you with relationships?

I've heard of her but have not listened to her stuff yet. Do you find her helpful?

I've also heard of her but have not listened to her stuff. I'm also curious to know what you think of her stuff, Sisabel.

I used to listen to her. She's got some great advice and some really bad advice. It depends on the person.

I definitely don’t always agree with her advice or her approach. Oddly enough though, I have found that her overall message really helps me. I have found myself looking inward at my own responsibility versus blaming others. I think her no-nonsense approach to life has been good for me to consider in many cases. I cringe at some of the things she says though and I definitely don’t agree with everything she says. I have come to the conclusion that I don’t think she actually expects or wants people to agree with every single thing she says.

[divine1966]

No-nonsense approach to life and looking inward instead of blaming others and taking charge of your own life is sometimes the only key to live a more authentic and satisfying life overall. Just my take on it.

One of her quotes: “It doesn't matter how we were raised. We become the person we choose to be.” Well of course it’s matter how we were raised, but we still have a choice to be either a mopying helpless victim or to take charge of our lives despite challenges. Second option brings more happiness to our lives, so I agree with her

Saying that, of course I don’t agree with everything she says

[luvyrself]

What radio station is she on now? I used to enjoy her quite a bit, tho I would take anyone’s advice with a grain of salt. My own talk therapist has been extremely wrong sometimes.

[divine1966]

She is on Sirius XM, not sure time and channel, I only listen SiriusXM when driving so it’s only specific day time, she also has podcast now but it’s not free, you have to get membership

[Open Eyes]

Just thought I would post a link so members reading can get a taste of this woman's advice.

yourtube Dr. Laura - Yahoo Video Search Results

I agree that Despair is much harder to deal with than all the other life challenges people choose to whine about. I also agree that trying to use life challenges where one can turn that around into some kind of positive purpose is helpful and it's better to have some kind of purpose than just wandering aimlessly.

The other nite I was watching a program that shown a light on Princess Diana. She was so young and naive when she fell in love with Prince Charles. She was devasted when she discovered that he really did not love her but just married her for "image" instead. What she ended up choosing to do is because the media was so obsessed with her, she used that to shine light on different areas in humanity that showed human suffering and a need for help. At one point when asked if she liked the power, she answered that by saying that she did not see herself as a power person, but instead a humanitarian. What she ended up exposing about not only Prince Charles, but also the royal family is how cold and selfish and controlling and grandiose these ROYALS could be. They did not like what she exposed and all the attention she got, the answer was in how they found ways to cut her off financially so she did not have the ability to travel and be a part of her humanitarian desires and attention she was getting. Millions of people connected to her, genuinely cared about her and felt sorry for her that Prince Charles only used her and had been secretly engaging in an affair with Camilla. She exposed how that royal family was all about control and image rather than having the humanitarian respect like she had.

I do think that how a person is raised can contribute to their personal challenges and their life choices. However, we cannot exclude the ways we can be different, can simply be born wired differently where that ends up with being punished instead of being recognized and guided to be and find out the positive aspects that someone who is wired differently can embrace about themselves in a positive productive way. So, to assume that there is only one way to be and how "that is normal" and everything else that doesn't fit into what is considered normal is bad, then a lot of suffering will take place in humanity.

[eskielover]

I NEVER blindly take anyone's advice. I always take what they say, analyze it in relationship to my situation then apply any changes I need to me or my environment based on what I KNOW because they never have the full picture.

It is ALWAYS good to truly listen & UNDERSTAND different points of view otherwise we become closed minded....but that doesn't mean just because we listen & understand that it is even necessarily appropriate to apply to our own lives....however not to apply something we need can be very unwise for us.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by eskielover

I NEVER blindly take anyone's advice. I always take what they say, analyze it in relationship to my situation then apply any changes I need to me or my environment based on what I KNOW because they never have the full picture.

It is ALWAYS good to truly listen & UNDERSTAND different points of view otherwise we become closed minded....but that doesn't mean just because we listen & understand that it is even necessarily appropriate to apply to our own lives....however not to apply something we need can be very unwise for us.

Exactly. Great point! Blindly following someone’s advice could be quite dangerous! It’s equally unwise to never hear what others might advice. Using common sense and critical thinking/reasoning is the key

[s4ndm4n2006]

she's still around?

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

she's still around?

I think so. I saw something online about podcast and Sirius xm. I just drove to my hairdresser and tried to search on Sirius, didn’t see, well it has hundreds of channels.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I think so. I saw something online about podcast and Sirius xm. I just drove to my hairdresser and tried to search on Sirius, didn’t see, well it has hundreds of channels.

listened to hear years ago and she was mostly good with her advice, though I'm with anyone that says don't take advice ever without your own research, she seemed intelligent at the time. I dunno what I'd think today as I am sure my views and values have changed.

[eskielover]

This was on Sirius XM's blog on Nov 8,
2018....probably still accurate

Starting November 5, catch Dr. Laura Schlessinger’s show exclusively on SiriusXM’s Triumph (Ch. 111). Continue to get no-nonsense relationship advice, infused with a strong sense of ethics and personal responsibility, each weekday from the famed therapist and author.

Originally Posted by divine1966

I think so. I saw something online about podcast and Sirius xm. I just drove to my hairdresser and tried to search on Sirius, didn’t see, well it has hundreds of channels.

She’s on the channel called Triumph every afternoon.

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

listened to hear years ago and she was mostly good with her advice, though I'm with anyone that says don't take advice ever without your own research, she seemed intelligent at the time. I dunno what I'd think today as I am sure my views and values have changed.

She has been much more helpful to listen to than the counselor I recently went to see.

Originally Posted by divine1966

No-nonsense approach to life and looking inward instead of blaming others and taking charge of your own life is sometimes the only key to live a more authentic and satisfying life overall. Just my take on it.


One of her quotes: “It doesn't matter how we were raised. We become the person we choose to be.” Well of course it’s matter how we were raised, but we still have a choice to be either a mopying helpless victim or to take charge of our lives despite challenges. Second option brings more happiness to our lives, so I agree with her


Saying that, of course I don’t agree with everything she says

Yes I agree with your point of view

Originally Posted by luvyrself

What radio station is she on now? I used to enjoy her quite a bit, tho I would take anyone’s advice with a grain of salt. My own talk therapist has been extremely wrong sometimes.

Triumph on Sirius XM 11. I sound like a commercial. LOL

[divine1966]

Looks like 2 to 5pm eastern time work days, I’ll check it out. I might be able to catch it on the days when I drive home a bit earlier. I am back to work next week so I’ll let you know if she is on it. Unless someone has XM on other devices, I only have it in the car

Never heard of her. I'll look her up. Is she a psychologist or MD or a self-appointed "doctor?"

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Just thought I would post a link so members reading can get a taste of this woman's advice.

yourtube Dr. Laura - Yahoo Video Search Results

I agree that Despair is much harder to deal with than all the other life challenges people choose to whine about. I also agree that trying to use life challenges where one can turn that around into some kind of positive purpose is helpful and it's better to have some kind of purpose than just wandering aimlessly.

The other nite I was watching a program that shown a light on Princess Diana. She was so young and naive when she fell in love with Prince Charles. She was devasted when she discovered that he really did not love her but just married her for "image" instead. What she ended up choosing to do is because the media was so obsessed with her, she used that to shine light on different areas in humanity that showed human suffering and a need for help. At one point when asked if she liked the power, she answered that by saying that she did not see herself as a power person, but instead a humanitarian. What she ended up exposing about not only Prince Charles, but also the royal family is how cold and selfish and controlling and grandiose these ROYALS could be. They did not like what she exposed and all the attention she got, the answer was in how they found ways to cut her off financially so she did not have the ability to travel and be a part of her humanitarian desires and attention she was getting. Millions of people connected to her, genuinely cared about her and felt sorry for her that Prince Charles only used her and had been secretly engaging in an affair with Camilla. She exposed how that royal family was all about control and image rather than having the humanitarian respect like she had.

I do think that how a person is raised can contribute to their personal challenges and their life choices. However, we cannot exclude the ways we can be different, can simply be born wired differently where that ends up with being punished instead of being recognized and guided to be and find out the positive aspects that someone who is wired differently can embrace about themselves in a positive productive way. So, to assume that there is only one way to be and how "that is normal" and everything else that doesn't fit into what is considered normal is bad, then a lot of suffering will take place in humanity.

Thanks for sharing the link Open Eyes. I'd never heard of her before so I'm only responding to what she said in your link. While some of her points are valuable, I think she is quite reductive on several matters.

Certainly for me, even though I live with depression, I choose to create some joy and peace each day. And I repeat that choice over and over. It helps me a great deal BUT I think Dr. Laura is forgetting about the importance of brain chemistry. Something about my brain chemistry allows me to make that choice and to keep making it. But there are humans with different brain chemistry who get stuck on the "whining" as she calls it. Dr. Laura supposedly has physiology credentials but I think she needs to study or review some neuroscience. Not all brains function in the same way. Yes, we can alter our thoughts and shift the neural pathways but we need to have the ability to take that first step or several steps. And I don't think everyone has that ability.

My brother, for example, is possibly the most negative and bitter person I've ever known. I've tried to help. I've offered non-judgmental support. I try to share things he enjoys but he always defaults to lashing out and a world view that people are all horrible (not my view). So, sadly, I do not think my brother can ever make the choice to create joy and peace for himself each day because his brain chemistry does not allow that....his bitter neural pathways are hard-wired at this point. Good things happen in his life and he perceives them negatively. It's almost shocking sometimes.

And my mother is a lifelong "whiner." She lights up when people feel sorry for her. I think that is hard-wired for her too.

I was surprised that on the one hand Dr. Laura preached about positive attitudes and strength but at the same time she said that some things are unforgivable. Each to their own but for someone as self-righteous as she is, I found that statement quite odd. For me, forgiveness is very important. If I have not fully forgiven the people in my past who hurt me, I make it a goal to keep working on it each day until I get there. There is no peace or health to be found in holding grudges. But again, that's my brain and my perceptions telling me that. Other people will have different perceptions....so I can't say that I am right and they are wrong. Does that make sense?

In short, I certainly practice some of what Dr. Laura preaches in my own life but I don't think everyone is necessarily able to think or respond that way. And we need to respect everyone and wish them peace, including "whiners" like my mother and misanthropes like my brother.

Thank you for this thread Sisabel. I really enjoy discussions like this.

[scorpiosis37]

I’m familiar with her show and I think she does a lot of damage with her “advice.” She’s homophobic, sexist, and racist and forces very conservative, neoliberal views on all callers in a “one size fits all” manner. I remember listening to her show as a teenager and hearing the vile things she said to a young, gay caller. It made me stay in the closet longer because I feared other adults saying those hateful things about me. She also has no cultural competence whatsoever when it comes to race, poverty, etc.

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

I’m familiar with her show and I think she does a lot of damage with her “advice.” She’s homophobic, sexist, and racist and forces very conservative, neoliberal views on all callers in a “one size fits all” manner. I remember listening to her show as a teenager and hearing the vile things she said to a young, gay caller. It made me stay in the closet longer because I feared other adults saying those hateful things about me. She also has no cultural competence whatsoever when it comes to race, poverty, etc.

I only listened to one clip of her. She didn't mention gay folks etc. Thank you for the info. I don't think I need to listen to more from her. Have a wonderful day.

[eskielover]

Originally Posted by scorpiosis37

I’m familiar with her show and I think she does a lot of damage with her “advice.” She’s homophobic, sexist, and racist and forces very conservative, neoliberal views on all callers in a “one size fits all” manner. I remember listening to her show as a teenager and hearing the vile things she said to a young, gay caller. It made me stay in the closet longer because I feared other adults saying those hateful things about me. She also has no cultural competence whatsoever when it comes to race, poverty, etc.

One cannot FORCE one's views on anyone. We ALL have our free choice to discard any opinion we disagree with or choose not to take the advice of.

Usually people who call her have been listening to her so it is not like they don't know the kind of advice she offers. No one forces them to call either.

You don't like the advice she offers.....don't listen.