Not exactly thrilled to be getting married

Do you two have means to support yourself? Do you two have a job? If not, how are you paying bills? Are you two on disability? I wonder if being married would make disability payments less? Where are you two going to live? Can you afford rent? Are you in subsidized housing? Would you qualify for it? I am not saying you have to answer these questions here, but all these things should be looked at and discussed with your fiancée before tying a knot. I hope it is all discussed and is under control

I may be in the minority with this but I just dont feel anyone should get married only because their partner wants to. I am not saying you have to marry at all-if you both agree you love each other and do not need to thats fine. But it just doesnt feel right to get married if only one person wants to. Lets say it goes south, you could end up resenting the fact that you got married. If you are on disability- would a spouses' income count against you? It just feels dishonest. I am not saying you are dishonest OP it just doesnt seem right to me. Does she know you are only marrying her because she wants it? I think its only fair that she realize you are doing that for her and not because you want to.

I married because it was the socially acceptable thing to do and I didn't think twice about it. My parents were married until death did them part. I was ready to stay married no matter what. Unfortunately my husband did not have the same belief. His parents were in a second marriage. My husband chose the divorce. I know many couples who agree to stay married. I wanted that too. Not romantic love but love changes over time in marriage. That's been my experience. Choose carefully.