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He was nasty to you but you were the one consoling him. What the.. Please this guy isn’t even safe to be around. He sounds beyond unstable. Locking himself in a bedroom? Are you sure he just drinks? He sounds like he is mixing drinks with pills or some drugs. He is losing it |
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#23
My questions are rhetorical. I don’t mean I actually want to know the answers why he acts this way. It was established that he is an abusive jerk and an addict and this isn’t really a relationship, more like you keep going to his house and drink with him. It doesn’t matter what he does and why. Focus on what you do and why.
Focus on why you keep going to his house not why he acts this way. Focus on why when you are thrown out you are begging to be allowed to stay, don’t focus on why he kicked you out. It doesn’t matter. |
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#27
Don’t worry about him. Worry about yourself
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#28
The sooner you end all contact with him—including text and online—the healthier you will be.
All contact. |
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#29
Not worried about him, I just don’t like how he makes me look like I’m the crazy one
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Block him please. Block his phone and Facebook and email |
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#32
I am going to block him now. The way he seems is he will punish me and then know I will just forgive him so contact me when he feels like it. I can’t handle it so I need to make sure he has no way of reaching me
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Good idea. Block him ASAP
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#34
I'm so sorry you're hurting so much, Gymgirl71! I completely agree with what all the other great, wise, wonderful posters have already wisely said better than I ever could! You've been given lots of great, wise, wonderful advice on this thread! I'd suggest to follow it as much as you can if you want to! This was definitely the last straw! He doesn't deserve you, or anyone else for that matter, in his own life since he treated you so horribly! Please don't be so hard on yourself and remember that it's NOT your fault and that HE has problems he needs to work on, NOT YOU! It's not up TO YOU to change him! Only he can change himself! Definitely block him as soon as you can! He doesn't deserve to hear from you or from anyone else! He definitely seems like a dangerous person to be around! I'd say you've DEFINITELY dodged a bullet by getting away from him! Things may have even escalated or got worse! I'm glad you're trying to get away from him and seeing him for who he truly is: a bad person who doesn't deserve you and doesn't deserve to be respected unless he starts to learn how to respect other people first! Please try to focus on yourself right now and don't pay attentiont to him or to what he does EVER AGAIN! You deserve to be treated with respect and you deserve to find someone who will truly love and truly respect you for you for who you truly are! YOU DESERVE IT! You're a STRONG, WONDERFUL PERSON! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! I'm SO HAPPY that you're finally starting to get away from him! Trust me when I say that that's the right thing to do and the LEAST he deserves! I PROMISE YOU THAT! Remember that what he does or says does NOT matter anymore! He's out of your life for good now! PLEASE REMEMBER THAT! I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of this, Gymgirl71!
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__________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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#36
Please set boundaries and maintain them. I think you should leave him. My ex is toxic too. I'm so glad I left him and I didn't look back.
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#38
It’s over...I tried so more times with him but he’s too messed up. Blames all his exes when really he is the problem.
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#39
Excellent
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