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So I keep hearing/reading that loneliness and social isolation kills you - worse than smoking or being overweight. Okay fine but I think I don’t have much longer because I’ve been a loner for a long time. I guess it’s a little frustrating because I don’t have a lot of control over this..... ((((
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Could somebody move this - wrong category
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Social isolation for me is not a problem. The problem is when I don't have any support from anybody. I am blessed to have a family although they are extremely dysfunctional. Sometimes having somebody near by and supporting you emotionally and mentally is a lifesaver. I am not lonely but don't have any friends. I did not choose my situation but because I keep becoming psychotic every few years, it has been hard to make friends. Thus, this time I'm receiving shots and am hoping I will not become psychotic for awhile. I don't really need friends who expect me to accommodate them anyways. I see friendship as a two-way street and realize I don't have anything to offer and don't want to be bothered. However, I need my family. My family, especially my mother, has been my anchor and has always helped me through my difficult times. Ironically, she is also ill but does not want to take any medication for her ups and downs. I guess what I'm trying to say is that loneliness is what you make of it. I am isolated too socially. But, I choose to be this way and am happy. I had acquaintances and even was married once. But, in retrospect, I was not happy with my relationships with these people. I am better off alone and am not lonely. I work occasionally and sometimes talk to others. But, I don't see these type of work-related situations as social events. I think I'm a true loner. I'm healthy otherwise physically. I walk when time permits and try to keep physically active. I don't see social isolation as a killer but as a choice. It is a choice I enjoy because I feel really comfortable just doing things on my own when I want. Thus, loneliness is not as bad as you think.
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I do believe there are things we can do about loneliness but I don't want to give you unsolicited advice. Sounds like you are hoping more for someone to listen. I hear you. You have my support. |
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Yeah I’m just getting really old and haven’t any success in keeping people in my life - haven’t really tried much either (my fault....). I dealt with drugs and then social anxiety - it’s been a long road with not much progress. People jump on me for lack of effort - guess they’re right but it doesn’t alleviate the situation... anyway I’ve been living in regretville recently.... it’s really horrible and always paralyzes me... can’t really get things going when I’m drowning in the past...... well okay then and thanks....oh yeah I know aloneness is not good for your health..... oh well
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I'm sorry you're going through these feelings, macd. And it's hard to change feelings of loneliness when you are, in fact, alone. (That's why I logged onto PC forums today...) I think it would be good to come up with strategies for how to deal with loneliness. Even people with tons of friends get lonely... sometimes all your friends are busy, out of town, etc. I usually watch Netflix/Hulu, but there's gotta be healthier methods. And hey, if you ever need a shoulder to lean on, feel free to PM me! |
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Thanks everyone
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You are not setting yourself up for a long-term friend by choosing that age group. The next time you're in a coffee shop, try to have a chat with someone in your age group and see what happens. Look on meetup.com in your area for a meetup that involves something interesting to you, like travel. Pursuing women in the age group you are currently targeting is only going to result in further lack of success in a long-term friendship or relationship. |
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Volunteer. Is there a VA near you? Dont you have computer skills? Look on volunteer.org
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