Intimacy stopped after wedding

I just want to add that I can't take "the pill" or hormonal contraceptives either because I live with depression and they seriously affected my mood. Also, the copper IUD is not a good idea. They rarely offer it anymore (if at all?) because it was causing infections. A good friend of mine had to have an emergency hysterectomy in her early 20s due to a terrible uterine infection from her copper IUD. She had planned to have a large family and obviously couldn't due to the hysterectomy. And yes, the other IUD comes with hormones. Women's bodies, and contraception methods, are much more complicated than men sometimes realize. Including male MDs. Assuming that all women will want to put artificial hormones or artificial devices into their bodies in order to prevent pregnancy is not reasonable in my opinion. Those can wreak havoc on a woman's physical and emotional health even though they are indeed commonplace in modern society. Just thought I'd add that bit of background info. Hope that's okay to add to your thread Stuck1nHead.

It's understandable while under duress. Maybe she doesn't like sex very much?

Tell her that you would rather separate painlessly now than after your lives become more enmeshed. And see what she says in response.

I think considering having a frank talk with her is the only way to find a solution or at the very least gain more understanding.

Do you feel she has been avoiding sex? If so, perhaps that's something to bring up. Or you could simply say something like

" I noticed things have been relatively calm recently, yet our sex life is the same as when things were more stressful, if you dislike sex, or perhaps dislike sex with me, or if it's something else other than what you've told me, please let me know.."

And are you considering leaving over this issue?

Anyways that's how I would go about it, you can change it to how you would do it, if you consider this course of action. The possible downside is that she could take offense to you doubting what she usually says. I don't know, only you do.

But if having a frank discussion is something you've already done, or won't consider doing. Then I suppose, what are you think regarding this issue at the moment? If anything has changed.