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My ex is trying to guilty me into getting back together with her. I broke up with my ex girlfriend a little over a week ago and she has been trying to guilty me into getting back together with her pretty much everyday since then. I've been trying to ignore her but it's been but it's been hard to do. Should I just keep doing that or not?
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#2
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Why did you break up with her?
How does she give you guilt? |
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#3
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I broke up with her because the relationship had become toxic and I thought it was just better to end the relationship. She keeps sending me text messages and tries to talk to me in person about how much she misses me, and how she doesn't want to live without me and that If I really care about her I would get back with her and give her my support and take care of her.
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#4
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It sounds like you don't want to do that.
How was the relationship toxic? |
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That seems like emotional blackmail, Lostin. Yes, definitely keep doing what you're doing. It was your decision to end the relationship and you have every right to move on. If she keeps insisting you may want to block her so that she won't bother you anymore. Either way, I'd suggest to just ignore her and keep moving on, or perhaps send a last text in which you can explain that you don't want to get back to her and why. Either way, just stick to your decision if you feel like the relationship was toxic to you. She needs to respect your decision and can't force you to come back. Sending many safe, warm hugs to you, Lostin, and to ALL the people you love and who love you!
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It was getting pretty toxic towards the end she was lying, and manipulating me constantly. She expected me to manage her mental health along with my own mental health, and blamed me for her drug addiction. I just couldn't deal with that anymore..
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#7
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No wonder you ended the relationship.
It sounds like if you let her back it will be more of the same, and you aren’t up for that. MickeyCheeky makes a good point about emotional blackmail, which occurs when someone inflicts emotional pain if you don’t do what they want. Her guilting you is a form of that. Trying to get her way by hurting you is not a loving or caring way of proceeding. No wonder you want to keep your distance! |
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#8
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Sounds like you did the right thing. Stay strong and don't let her drag you back in.
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I'm going to just have to block her because I have nothing more to say to her that I haven't already said to her, and It's probably the best way to get her to leave me alone.
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Blocking sounds like the way to go. I hope she moves on to something else and leaves you alone soon!
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As Mickey Cheeky and others mentioned, it sounds like emotional blackmail. From what I see, it seems like you made the right decision to block her. It is so difficult to cut ties when people are trying to manipulate you like that, let alone someone you had such a close connection with like your girlfriend. You are strong and I wish you the best as you recover from this.
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