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#21
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Have you ever considered medical school? You might make a good physician. Never time to be bored or curious and you’re already good with boundaries. |
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And it isn't merely lack of things to do. I'm also terribly bored by responsibilities that are tedious. But isn't that normal? |
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Law school was the other thing that came to mind for you. Yes, I agree that every day responsibilities can become quite tedious. |
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One could begin by saying how much you value the friendship—but one thing has been difficult for you, which is ... And therefore you are asking... Because you wouldn’t want anything to come between you. Once you have a boundary, you can use gentle, non threatening humor to remind her of it. |
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This way, you have time to think about what you write in response to whatever she writes. If she starts guilt-tripping you over text or email and you see yourself getting increasingly frustrated with her, walk away from your phone or computer, take a deep breath, go do some processing or go do something else and come back to it when you are calmer. |
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If (when) she crosses that boundary, I'll just walk away. Or that's the plan, at least. That's a good idea. Also, if I put it in writing, then I've got a documentation of what I actually said. She has a habit of twisting words; e.g. insisting that some plan she was trying to convince me of was actually my idea. Not that I've ever fallen for her ham-handed attempts at manipulation, but she still attempted to manipulate me, which is rude. |
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