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Over the past 6 years.... I have tried to be patient with my son... who is 23... I never "demand" that he spend a holiday with me... I do ask " so... how about getting together for the holiday".. meaning on the holiday... or a different day...
have been patient... tried.. dinners out.. big dinners home... and he has been dating same girl... except for past year... and the result.. is "no show"... or.. hour to many hours late.. so this year.. I ask.. you want to get together... and he decided on Christmas.... and them I try to pin him down to a time.. ya know... and.. so sometime... between 8am and midnight.. perhaps he will be dropping by.... though..."her is definitely" coming over.. grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr what would you guys do?????? for me.. I bought a pizza... if he shows.. I will stick it in the oven.. and we will eat.. and he can have his presents.. otherwise... I will just hang onto presents till... whenever.. and do your 23 year old male son's.. buy you a Christmas card... or anything??? |
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I know how you are feeling on a regular day type of thing with your son....... but I have to say that my 23 year old son LOVES to be home for the Holidays and he is usually the first one to ask "WHEN" and "WHAT TIME" - therefore - I agree with you..... Do what you want for Christmas and do not wait on him this year.
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Thank you... that makes me feel better... it is hard to "wait" for someone to show... kinda like being at their "mercy"..
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I say do what you want for Christmas too. You did not say that your relationship is bad, so what I am reading says your son is inconsiderate. Probably selfish, only caring about his own feelings. I hope he comes through for you this year. What a nice Christmas surprise that would be.
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I have three stepsons, 30 to 41 in age. It's hard to get them together all at once as they are doing lots of other things. Tomorrow we're going to their mother's house and only the middle son with wife and grandbabies are going so we're showing up at that middle son's house early Christmas morning and the other two boys will be there. The oldest boy lives with the middle boy and his family at the moment while he's getting some debts paid and on his feet again. But we rarely have things happening at our house except in the summer; we bought a boat as a son/grandchild "magnet" :-) But we're happy to travel around to where-ever we're invited, LOL.
Do you know where he goes during Christmas week? Are there any other family parties or whatnot you can "catch" him at? This year we have 2-3 where all the sons will be there so we'll manage to get them all their gifts but I still remember one year when the youngest didn't show up until the next summer I think it was to get his Christmas gift :-) It mostly has depended on his job and hobbies, apparently young men are busier than I remember being as a young woman :-) Some years work better than others. Additional incentives besides just ourselves help too I've noticed.
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my son is 13 , so I don't havethat problem yet. I wish you peace this holiday season ,
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we have an uncle who does that...you know what my mom does?
She plans the dinner for 5 tells everyone to come around 4 and tells him the dinner is at 3 .....so he arrives his usual late self...but isnt late at all in the end......works for us...i dont know...no one got mad not even him...lol....
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