Now this is serious

So I have previously said that my stepfather said I would die if I refused to adopt his religion. I have confronted my mother about this many times.

First time: it was just a joke

Second time: its has first time parenting and he apologized

Third time: he has a noncancerous brain tumor and has MS

Forth time: consider his reasonings. He wants what's best for you and it's his first time. He doesn't know any better and he apologized

Fith time: (insert huge religious argument were my mom justifies his intentions on a spiritual level. Even though I'm not religious and it holds no value to me)

It has caused me to question my mom's ability to take care of me. I have the right to a healthy and loving home. I feel this violates this right. Tomorrow I plan on mentioning this to my therapist. But I'm terrified of the possibility of CPS getting involved. But I want to take legal action against him, what do I do?

I am SO SORRY for what you're going through, @JupiterBraytech! I do feel like you have EVERY RIGHT to practice your own Religion - or NOT practice it if that's what you wish. So your parents need to respect that and they can't force you to adpot THEIR Religion. You're doing well by standing up for yourself. You've said you want to take legal action. I'm not sure I understand that part so please forgive me if I ask for some clarifications. What kind of action you want to take specifically? What is CPS? Child Protective Services? Are your parents being abusive in other ways aside from this as well? Are you old enough to leave the house? In any case, if there's ANY kind of abuse going on there, then yes, taking legal action is a good idea. Definitely make sure to hire a good lawyer first! Also, if for whatever reason you can't get through with it, leave your house if you can and if you're old enough to do it. Are there any other relatives that may help you and support you with your decision? Any friends? If you go to school, perhaps you can ask your teachers for some help? Definitely get as much help as you possibly can! I hope you'll get out of that situation. If the problems you're having are only limited to your Religious Beliefs, though my suggestion would be to just keep standing up for yourself and perhaps try to get away from them. That's my opinion anyway! Do whatever pleases you. Feel free to PM me ANYTIME and I'll try to offer you Advice and Support. I'm sure PLENTY of others wil gladly help you as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @JupiterBraytech, Your Other Relatives, Your Friends and ALL Of The People You Love And Who TRULY Love You And Accept You For WHO YOU TRULY ARE! Please keep fighting and keep rocking as much as you possibly can like you're already wonderfully doing all and entirely by yourself. KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING! YOU'RE MUCH, MUCH STRONGER THAN YOU THINK AND YOU KNOW THAT! WE ALL KNOW THAT! THAT'S A PROMISE! KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING!

Are you close enough in age to file for early emancipation ? That would legally make you an adult ,and in charge of your own legal ,moral and religous affairs .

I feel for you ,sometimes the most toxic stuff on earth is "family" .

My standard advice to people expand your definition of family , your friends who love you the way you are ,regardless of blemishes bruises or rough spots ,they are the true keepers of the family flame .

And when home gets nuts,lean on your T ,thats what they are for ,to help support you .

Peace

You could fight for legal emancipation but when a child does so they are usually expected to move out and be financially independent, not sure of your age.

Do you have other family you can move in with whether you file or not?

It’s wonderful that you have a Therapist to discuss all this with. I’m sure he or she can help you come up with coping strategies.

Religion is a very delicate situation to tip toe around. Is there any possibility that you can learn to just not let things affect you when it comes up? Kind of nod and move on to the next subject.

It sucks that your not getting support from your Mom that you would like and frankly deserve , but life often isn’t fair and we all need to pick our battles

Good luck , I hope things get easier.

I would have been able to tolerate them being religious if it wasn't effecting me in such negative ways. My Stepfather has a history of this sort of thing. I've mentioned it in other posts. I feel I have the right to speak up to my T but I am worried about Child Protective Services, yes. Why? My dad has a huge history of yelling at me for no reason. We can just be having a conversation and he gets upset and yells at me. He can be emotionally neglectful too, or at least I think it can be called that. Even though he tries to get emotional support for me. He always yells and calls me selfish. My stepfather has no idea why I hate him now. Because he's ignorant as always. And my mother just cant seem to protect me because of her religion she's too submissive. Expects me to just forgive him. I feel no love for my family. I only care about my sisters.

I have lost a lot of trust in my mother. I will never be religious because of this. But NO IM THE ONE Who's wrong to her! I want to disown my stepfather. I have already cut ties with him as much as possible. Being 14 and all. But I want everyone to know that he's not my family and I feel no empathy for him. He has no place in my life. He is NOT my stepfather and I want him to have no legal rights over me. He doesn't deserve them. I want to know if there is a way to disown only him.

you may want this , but at 14 unfortunately, while you reside in the house there isn't much you can do. if you are saying there is such abuse and it is unsafe because of the treatment he does to you and a therapist deems this as dangerous as you say it is, they will be required to report it. either it is life threatening or it is not.

you are stuck in a bad situation..to you to strike out on your own, and in a bad place at home. it sucks. you don't have to follow their religion deep inside your soul , you may have to outwardly in order to survive. sometimes you do what you must to get by. religion is a personal thing. my family of origin was catholic, and I am no longer one.

my parents decided shortly after my birth I was not worthy of being in their family. I was not perfect. they felt women's role (or my father) should be dumb and pretty...and spitting out babies . even as a child I was not pretty and very smart. and not afraid. so they determined that I would be dead by 18. made that their #1 priority. obviously I survived despite their goals. you do what you do to survive. they were evil scum. but as a child growing up I fought and played the game when I had to. there was horrible abuse and no one listened. but I survived.

he is your stepfather, legally...but deep inside maybe not. fight on. you are 14. you will not change them. but figure out what it will take for you to get to the point where you can strike out on your own. and then get there.