[rvngwgy]

Hello everybody, I'm looking for some guidance

So, me and this girl has been talking since April. Things were going really well for some time. We talked alot (ALOT!) and she really liked me, It really showed and she often told me so. However she is diagnosed with depression (dont know all the details sorry). We met a couple of times and things were going really well.

So about a month ago she had a depressive period (still ongoing) and she didnt talk as much as she used to. Then one night we talked alot more than we had in weeks. She said it made her really happy talking to me again. So we decieded to meet up and it went pretty well. She seemed to still be interested in me. She really wanted to meet up the next day, but it was late so i asked if we could meet up the day after, she first refused and insisted on meeting that day but eventually gave in. On the day we were supposed to meet up she cancelled as she said she was really depressed but I didnt mind.

Fast forward a week and she tells me she isnt interested in me anymore, she says she doesnt have any feelings left for me even though she were more interested than ever a few days a

Two weeks ago I asked her again but she insisted that we should move on as friends and that she doesnt have any feelings left. At first I was hurt but i came to accept it, i thought that she would eventually push me away and stop talking to me and i could then move on.

In those two weeks I've had mixed emotions, I must admit that i've been checking her score on snapchat, and shes pretty much only been snapchating me for the last two weeks. Why would still keep in contact with me but not other people.. When i stopped following her on instagram she immediately stopped following me. When I ignore her snapchats she hits me up again.

Why would she still do this even though she is not interested in me? Im confused because she doesnt like me and i want to move on, but it feels like shes trying to keep me around and get my attention.

Sure, this may all be a consequence of my own self esteem or problems that i've never taken care of. But i cant help but feel lost here. Do i keep in contact even though she only uses snapchats once per day? Or do I deistance myself and let her come to me. While I dont want to be rude to her I feel like im waisting my time on this.

She rarely leaves her house and she barely talks to her parents. I dont know if she talks much to her friends, but still keeps in contact with me. I feel sort of special but I also feel like she doesnt care about me at all. She wouldnt hit me up again after I ignore her if she didnt think about me. Perhaps I'm overthinking it. Yeah I probably am

Anyways for you people out there with a little more experience in life, what do you make of this situation?

[sarahsweets]

Hey @rvngwgy Personally I do not believe in social media when it comes to keeping in touch with people like this. If she was interested she would call or text, not play games with unfollowing or shapchatting. You should either ask her outright if she wants to date you or cut her off. Do not base anything on her social media presence.

Originally Posted by rvngwgy

Hello everybody, I'm looking for some guidance

So, me and this girl has been talking since April. Things were going really well for some time. We talked alot (ALOT!) and she really liked me, It really showed and she often told me so. However she is diagnosed with depression (dont know all the details sorry). We met a couple of times and things were going really well.

So about a month ago she had a depressive period (still ongoing) and she didnt talk as much as she used to. Then one night we talked alot more than we had in weeks. She said it made her really happy talking to me again. So we decieded to meet up and it went pretty well. She seemed to still be interested in me. She really wanted to meet up the next day, but it was late so i asked if we could meet up the day after, she first refused and insisted on meeting that day but eventually gave in. On the day we were supposed to meet up she cancelled as she said she was really depressed but I didnt mind.

Fast forward a week and she tells me she isnt interested in me anymore, she says she doesnt have any feelings left for me even though she were more interested than ever a few days a

Two weeks ago I asked her again but she insisted that we should move on as friends and that she doesnt have any feelings left. At first I was hurt but i came to accept it, i thought that she would eventually push me away and stop talking to me and i could then move on.

In those two weeks I've had mixed emotions, I must admit that i've been checking her score on snapchat, and shes pretty much only been snapchating me for the last two weeks. Why would still keep in contact with me but not other people.. When i stopped following her on instagram she immediately stopped following me. When I ignore her snapchats she hits me up again.

Why would she still do this even though she is not interested in me? Im confused because she doesnt like me and i want to move on, but it feels like shes trying to keep me around and get my attention.

Sure, this may all be a consequence of my own self esteem or problems that i've never taken care of. But i cant help but feel lost here. Do i keep in contact even though she only uses snapchats once per day? Or do I deistance myself and let her come to me. While I dont want to be rude to her I feel like im waisting my time on this.

She rarely leaves her house and she barely talks to her parents. I dont know if she talks much to her friends, but still keeps in contact with me. I feel sort of special but I also feel like she doesnt care about me at all. She wouldnt hit me up again after I ignore her if she didnt think about me. Perhaps I'm overthinking it. Yeah I probably am

Anyways for you people out there with a little more experience in life, what do you make of this situation?

[Open Eyes]

Often when someone is struggling with depression they struggle with believing they can enjoy love and happiness. Yes, sometimes they might engage and try, may even find themselves enjoying another person, yet as soon as anything happens that presents a challenge, they often quickly fall into believing they will end up just losing and getting hurt so they pull away. This can leave another person very confused as you are describing feeling.

[yagr]

Originally Posted by rvngwgy

Two weeks ago I asked her again but she insisted that we should move on as friends...

Move on as friends...? Does this mean, move on from a romantic design TO friendship....or move on AWAY from friendship?

Because if it is the former, then it makes sense that she is trying to keep you interested. If it is the latter, then it sounds (to me) like she's playing games.

[MickeyCheeky]

Well, I'm not sure what she may be doing, but I'd suggest to just be clear with her and have a serious talk about ALL of this. Ask here whether she's interested or not. It's only fair towards you. So yes, definitely speak to her like the other wise, wonderful posters have already wisely and wonderfully suggested. Hopefully that will clear things up. It is certainly not easy to have a relationship with someone who's struggling with Depression but it IS possible. Please do consider this before you decide to start a relationship with her. It is a BIG commitment as you have probably already guessed. Wishing you good luck with it to BOTH of you whatever your deicision will be! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME if you need advice and support. Keep us posted if you wish to do so and let us know how it goes with her. I am SURE plenty of others will also GLADLY and WONDERFULLY help you out as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH You, @rvngwgy, Her, Your Family Your Friends And ALL Of Your Loved Ones! PLEASE DO KEEP FIGHTING AND PLEASE DO KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WISELY AND WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF AND ALL AND ENTIRELY ON YOUR OWN!