People really suck

I have always disliked my uncle. There was just something about him I thought was selfish. Every time we went over there as kids my dad would assume his bother loved him but I could see in my uncles eyes he didn't love my dad.

So when we grew up I refused to have anything to do with him. People speculated something happened between us but no, I just had to sit there as a kid and see how selfish he was.

So my sister always liked him and hung out with him. Even when he was dying she went to see him and did the right thing. I said, well, at least you will get something the will. This uncle didn't have kids, just a wife. A wife who he met and married at 80.

Well, who do you think got the entire estate? Yup.. a woman who is currently in a nursing home and the nursing home will take that estate. The family got nothing, not even a chance to buy the house and it was all given to a complete stranger.

Just glad I saw that selfish streak early on.

People suck. I am kind of irrationally angry as well that she got the house that my entire family used to gather at every sunday that was my grandma's.

Something similar occurred in our family many years ago. It was one of my great uncles (a brother of my maternal grandmother) who remarried late in life & left everything to the new wife. As I recall there were differing opinions within the family on the subject. There was some consternation that the "johnny-come-lately" wife walked away with everything. But then there was also the perspective that she took care of the old geezer when he was ill. Realistically it didn't really matter to my parents one way or the other since they would never have seen any of it anyway.

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Originally Posted by Skeezyks But then there was also the perspective that she took care of the old geezer when he was ill. Realistically it didn't really matter to my parents one way or the other since they would never have seen any of it anyway.

If she took care of him but I suspect she just hastened his demise. I hope my sister learns from this. She is always bemoaning that our side of the family is so poor. Well maybe we can see why now?

She still insists on being all friendly with others in the family. Even though, as it turns out... 2 of my dad's other brothers were millionaires. And left everything to their kids. Personally I don't mind that. My parents just left everything to us. But when you don't have kids I think something should be sent to the family. But I hope she learns that the wealth me and my brother have with her is to be kept in our little family as should all the effort and assistance.

My husband and I have both been married before.

We bought a home with acreage and own it free and clear.

Our will is set that when one dies everything goes to the other , once we are both gone it’s split between my daughter and his 3 sons.

My husband and I are both on disability. If my husband were to die first would I have to sell my home and give his “ share” to his grown kids? No , nor would he be expected to give my daughter her portion.

My husband has a small life insurance policy for me and one for his kids, both are small but that’s all we could afford and now with our illness’s we can’t even get another policy.

This is why having a will is so important for everyone regardless of age.

Second or first marriage late in life can complicate matters but in the end it goes by a will or can get hung up in probate for years , while someone well paid sorts things out.

I’m sorry your uncle didn’t think about staying in his will that would result in some form of money or family heirlooms stay in the family.

Most people do not want to talk about death and put things in writing.

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Originally Posted by ~Christina My husband and I have both been married before. This is why having a will is so important for everyone regardless of age.

My mom had a will and I filed probate but I never finalized it. My brother and I spilt up the assets which we got hold of via the court order that we were executors and once that was done and I paid the taxes and no one had objected in the 5 year period, I didn't see the point of continuing.

My uncles wife is going into a nursing home and that money is going to be used to support her there. That is kind of a super waste of money as if she needed to be in a nursing home and had no money the state would pay for it.

I also feel like we should have been offered the option of buying the house, which was my grandmom's house, before they sold. Me and my brother probably could have done it.

I completely agree with you. Younger people can still work and make a living and save for their future. The older spouse has already spent their lifetime working and saving and that’s the time they need to be taken care of. I agree with leaving everything to the spouse and then fairly splitting it up between the kids after the surviving spouse is deceased.