[eclairparty98]

Happy Friday, peace be with you always

As of this week, I'm struggling to cope with my jealousy. Jealousy is new to me, I'm not used to it - not since I was a teenager. I want to cry, I want to puke, I want to stay home. My boyfriend has always struggled with paranoia, worrying about where I am, who I'm with, if I still love him.. that always put me through so much emotional torment and knowing how awful his paranoia made me feel, I now feel guilty about my jealousy. He's much better at trusting me these days.

This jealousy has aggressively triggered a ton of insecurities and knocked my confidence. I've become extremely self conscious all of a sudden.

Are there any tactics, approaches, mechanisms to combat our jealousy anyone can share with me?? I thought about telling him , maybe we could make a joke of it??

Thank you so much in advance

[Bill3]

Since jealousy is new to you, I wonder if there is something about this specific relationship that is bringing out jealousy in you.

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by Bill3

Since jealousy is new to you, I wonder if there is something about this specific relationship that is bringing out jealousy in you.

What are you jealous of?

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Bill3

Since jealousy is new to you, I wonder if there is something about this specific relationship that is bringing out jealousy in you.

Hi Bill3 and Sarahsweets,

Well, I'm thinking it could be his neighbour. His neighbour is really good looking. The other day, my boyfriend was telling me how his neighbour was trying to ask him something but instead changed the topic to a lost pair of headphones. My boyfriend kept suggesting there was something his neighbour was trying to say..

Yesterday, he cancelled our date because his neighbours toilet was flooded .. this meant my boyfriend couldn't use his toilet or shower. All he kept talking about was how bad he felt for the neighbour which I do understand. But if I tried to change the conversation back to how we sadly weren't able to see each other, he'll bring up his neighbour.. where's his mind at, you know?! Or am I completely paranoid?? I'd rather be paranoid than jealous. I'm aware that my thoughts are potentially totally irrational. I feel so vulnerable

[Discombobulated]

Is your jealousy just around this neighbour?

[eclairparty98]

Originally Posted by Discombobulated

Is your jealousy just around this neighbour?

Hi there Discombobulated, I hope you're well!!

Yes, this jealousy has been triggered by this neighbour all of a sudden since Tuesday this week..

everything has fallen apart since my boyfriend cancelled our date yesterday and I made this post. We have a date planned for today but I'm not feeling up for it anymore. I was on whatsapp until 1pm and so he's paranoid about ME now.

[Discombobulated]

Can you say if it's something about this neighbour you don't trust or is it more to do with not trusting your partner?

[bpcyclist]

Also, does your BF have a history of betraying you?

[Buffy01]

Originally Posted by eclairparty98

Happy Friday, peace be with you always

As of this week, I'm struggling to cope with my jealousy. Jealousy is new to me, I'm not used to it - not since I was a teenager. I want to cry, I want to puke, I want to stay home. My boyfriend has always struggled with paranoia, worrying about where I am, who I'm with, if I still love him.. that always put me through so much emotional torment and knowing how awful his paranoia made me feel, I now feel guilty about my jealousy. He's much better at trusting me these days.

This jealousy has aggressively triggered a ton of insecurities and knocked my confidence. I've become extremely self conscious all of a sudden.

Are there any tactics, approaches, mechanisms to combat our jealousy anyone can share with me?? I thought about telling him , maybe we could make a joke of it??

Thank you so much in advance

Is it possible that he could have codepency?

[eclairparty98]

Thank you for your replies , everyone - Buffy, I think it may be me who is codependent. The jealousy is gone, my boyfriend was extremely disrespectful today during an unpleasant date of which I left early.
I hope everyone is okay have a lovely week, all of you x

[MickeyCheeky]

I am so sorry this is happening to you, @eclairparty98! You've said your date didn't go well. Did you break up with your Boyfriend or what? If that's the case, I am sorry things went down for BOTH of you! If that didn't happen, perhaps it'd be best to talk to him about ALL of this and see how it goes from there. Communication is a FUNDAMENTAL part in ever serious Relationship. So yes, I'd definitely encourage you to talk to him about ALL of this and see how it goes from there. I hope you'll be able to talk things out! Please do remember that ALL of us care about you here so please feel free to talk freely as much as you like, ok? WE ALL DO CARE ABOUT YOU VERY MUCH SO! THAT'S A PROMISE! YOU CAN COUNT ON US! YOU CAN REST ASSURED OF THAT! I PROMISE YOU THAT! Please do remember that ALL of us care about you here so please feel free to talk freely as much as you like, ok? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @eclairparty98, your Family, your Friends, your Boyfriend and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking no matter what happens, ok?