[Gymgirl71]

Reflecting on my past relationships, and especially my last two. Last one the guy didn’t respect me. He would ignore a lot of my texts and then he knew that the next day I would text him asking him if he is upset with me, etc and he knew it bothered me but he didn’t care enough to not do things that upset me. If someone cares about you, they wont do things to disrespect you or upset you. Boyfriend before him was no better. I want to change that. I want to stop letting men disrespect me and stop staying in toxic relationships period. There is no 3 chances…you screw up then you get ONE more chance and then I walk away and erase you FOREVER. next

[TishaBuv]

“If someone cares about you, they wont do things to disrespect you or upset you.”

I have a really hard time with this thought, too. If someone says they love you, they won’t do things that deeply hurt you.

Do they? Can we be wrong?

There is also the degree of the things they are doing that matter in this thought. Are our expectations of people too unrealistic? Are we too demanding with what is unacceptable?

In my case, I feel I am absolutely in line with simply needed the absolute minimum and not getting it. Is this the case with you?

Plus, I give chance after chance, then I still don’t end it. Do you really end it after one offense?

[Gymgirl71]

I give too many chances..I put up with being ignored etc..it’s basic respect

[TishaBuv]

Originally Posted by Gymgirl71

I give too many chances..I put up with being ignored etc..it’s basic respect

You shouldn’t have to put up with being ignored. That person is telling you that you are not important to them. You are best off to stop contacting them and not answer when they contact you. But, it also depends on who they are to you and the reason why they are ignoring you.

I’m assuming this is a bf who ‘isn’t that into you’. If that’s the case, move on for sure!

[TishaBuv]

I love that book btw- “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Not the movie. Read the book for a lighthearted but helpful dose of reality.

[Gymgirl71]

No other reasons than playing games

[MickeyCheeky]

It is good that you're aware of this, @Gymgirl71! Now you can start working on it. You DO deserve Respect and yes, giving too many chances is not good for our own health. So yes, definitely stand up for yourself. You have EVERY RIGHT to do that! Let us know if we can do something to help, ok? Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Gymgirl71, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking no matter what happens, ok?