The possible end of a friendship

Thanks eclairparty ♥️ I hope there is something in this thread that can help you and others, I did receive some good advice. In some ways I think this may have been about me being ready to take that advice. I actually think I knew the writing was on the wall last December yet I resisted it.

Hi, I'm sorry to hear that your friendship ended. At least you gave your former friend closure. Not knowing why someone chose to stop talking to you all of a sudden is an even worse way to end a friendship. It hasn't been that long yet, so maybe your friend will respond to you, or maybe they won't. It depends on what was said in the email. I also ended a friendship with a friend a few months ago. She kept on disrespecting my boundaries and she tried to change me, etc....

It's hard to deal with the grief. Try to remember that good times and the things that you learned from that friendship. My friend did help me realize a few things about myself. Try not to talk to much about what happened with most people unless they're really willing to listen to you. I got the feeling that my other friends just expected me to get over things right away and that I was better off without my friend. It sucks, but like my former friend said, a lot of people don't really want to hear about negative things to often.

Hopefully your friend will respond back to you. soon.

wishing you peace and happiness

Just adding this for myself. I have kept the door open for this person because I don't like closing doors on people.

However I met with a mutual friend today and without my prompting my mutual friend talked about several observations on this other friend we have in common. I didn't talk openly about the upset me and this other friend had (it isn't fair to involve others) but they have separately reached very strikingly similar conclusions about this friend's behaviour. That this person has poor boundaries and low emotional intelligence to quote our mutual friend.

It was validating that someone who similarly knows this person has also felt the same way about this person. It felt a bit disloyal talking about them when they weren't there but it helped to see I have not imagined or exaggerated some of the things that bothered me about them.

It did help me process, the door is still open but I will keep stronger boundaries with this person. I allowed them to previously violate my boundaries and that was my poor choice.

@jesyka Thanks! Yes this friend did respond, the thread actually goes back to December last year so I wouldn't blame you for not reading it all. We did talk and things went bad again during lockdown. I have struggled processing all of it but I am getting there. Talking with a mutual friend helped today.

That's great, Disco

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I think that I did read it all. Anyways, sorry that things went bad again during lockdown. The fact that another friend agreed with this friends faults is not a good sign. I'm glad to hear that talking to a mutual friend helped.

It doesnt have to end, you can fight for the good friendship.

Thanks - right now I am still in touch with this friend but I have adjusted my expectations a lot, this seems to be working well.

Friendships are like the wind. They come, and make a impact, that is subtle most of the time, and then they leave quietly and before you know it, it just disappeared.