GF let guy play with her breasts in class, all year long.

I am in a relationship with a girl who told me about her past. When she first told me, I didn't seem to care cause everyone has fun, but after awhile it started to bug me and I was not sure why? Maybe someone could help me understand why? Is it because I am jealous or is it because I am questioning her personality?

This is what she told me.
When she was a freshman in high school, she let a guy play with her breasts in history class while the class had the lights off. This happened while they were taking notes and watching movies. She also said that it happened all year long. At one point she was sexting this guy, but then was caught by his parents.

At first I didn't care, but then started to wonder why she would let a guy play with her in front of all her classmates? like I understand if it happens once or twice, but this happened all year long? Isn't that strange? What does it mean? I mean if you really think about if, it means for like 45 minutes, she let a guy mess with her boobs. I asked her if she liked him and she said no, she didn't have any attraction to him. To me that seems weird that you could have a guy touch you for a whole year in front of your teacher and classmates and not like him, and on top of that be sexting him?

IDK what to think of this?

This girl sounds strange and I think you should dump her and find a nicer girl to date.

I think it’s ridiculous that she did that.. But who cares what she did in freshmen year. People do worse things for attention. High school is tough time

How old are you? I don’t care if my husband touched girls boobs in class in high school. Well he wouldn’t. But it’s not something I care about.

freshman year is not known for the best decisions. ever.

if it isn't you then not your worries. hopefully this person is making better choices.

Freshman year.

How many years ago was that?

She was a freshman 6 years ago. She told me that he would touch her outside her clothes for the whole year during the time they were taking notes and watching movies in class.



Idk if shes making better choices. She got married to a guy when she was 18 and then it ended when she was 20. Moved on to a girl who wasn't very nice to her. And now shes with me and she seems like she has things together. Like it seems like a lot of what she did was running away from her family.



You think it was attention and that's why she was doing it? Like you think she was trying to be a badass or something?



It was 5 years ago for her and for me about 8 or 9.

As a teacher myself I can’t even fathom an answer to this but I’ll make damn sure my lights are never dim enough during a movie lol jk

On a serious note I thought that was disturbing.

However -

I think she did it simply because she could. The thrill of getting away with it, more than the act itself.

She probably did it for the same reason we had kids vaping in someone’s classroom the other day. They would pretend getting something from under the desk but in reality they were taking a puff. Crazy things teenagers do

I think you are questioning her character. If someone allows someone they don't even truly want to touch their breasts in public for a whole year, what does that say about the person? And given the fact she didn't like him, that she sexted with him? Does it say she's an easy floozy? Does it say she doesn't respect herself? Did she truly like him and is lying to you about it? I am asking these questions to you to help you think more on it.

She was 14. Yes main character traits manifest themselves at age 2. Yet teens do bizarre things at 14 that might not even be in her true character. Anyone who spent any time with variety of teens will tell you some stories. I don’t really understand the importance of what one did in freshmen year.

He’s questioning it and clearly it bothers him to some degree or he wouldn’t be asking.. It could say something about her character that he’s now questioning.

Good observation that perhaps she was running from her family. This behavior could indicate family dysfunction or abuse/neglect at home. I’d focus on how she behaves now and if she still seeks inappropriate attention. Some people never stop it

As others pointed out, 14 year olds make choices that leave adults scratching their heads.

That said, my first thought was to wonder what was going on in her life that her self esteem was so low that she allowed this guy to do this. The fact that she jumped into a couple of relationships afterward adds to that.

She does have abuse from her family and siblings and I feel like her family is dysfunctional. She seems like she is trying to work on herself by only seeing her family on holidays so she doesnt have to keep getting abused (this was her idea, which I thought was great). Part of me feels like she wants to be a healthier person, but she feels like there is no point. Which is why I'm hoping to help, but I know my limits. I asked her if she wanted me to help her and she told me yes and so far she hasn't given me any complaints or anything like that. Shes actually very thankful.

Shes not going to a psychologist and not taking medication for her depression, but shes open and seems willing to do little things to improve her depression like going on walks, working on her sleeping schedule, making the bed and taking a shower every day (the walking was her idea when i asked her what would help your depression). If she was complaining about doing these things I wouldnt be so interested in her, but to me she seems like she really does want to help herself.?

I have a feeling after a year or so she will be more willing to go to a psychologist. I'm not forcing it on her either cause Its important for her to want to go and not be forced to go.