I feel so ashamed

Honey, it's not YOU that failed. You didn't fail at anything. HE failed YOU.

You cannot change this person. I think you took it upon yourself to change and mold him into what you needed and wanted. That doesn't work -- not ever.

And we cannot take ALL the responsibility of a relationship on our shoulders. It's not YOU that needs to make this relationship work. He failed to step up to the plate to give you what you needed and wanted the most. He is who he is, and that will never change.

Know this. Don't keep going back trying to mold him into someone he is not.

Please absorb what I am saying, and carry these thoughts around with you. It's NOT your fault. It's NOT your responsibility. HE is not your responsibility.

Yes..I am accepting him for who he is, and it’s not for me. I’m not equipped to handle his ways..he wants to convince me what a great person he is etc but good people don’t act this way.