[s4ndm4n2006]

Title is supposed to be inspire the GOT quote but I'm guessing I failed there.




But on a more serious note, any of you that know me, and have read my few posts about my life in the past and my situation with my wife (technically ex but not... etc) And the things I've been through with all of her moving away for years. leaving me with the kids when they were younger, moving back in supposedly on a "temporary" basis which turned into what is now years later...

Well after all this time patience itself was not in vain. She is moving out on her own after all this time. She has secured a position with a company that will provide her living quarters (an apartment) and paid living expenses related to that - that is rent and utilities which is perfect for her. I have prayed over the years with that in mind that I don't wish anyone, not even her, to be homeless but just simply have a way to live separately so that I can go forward with the long overdue divorce.

This is all great news and a change that is good but... at the same time, I'm facing the unknown for the first time in quite awhile now so not sure how I feel about it all, what I will do with myself, my life etc... it's strange, I'm not afraid, so much as just like wait... what now? I guess that's a good thing in a way but just unsure of how to articulate my feelings on this right now
pretty sure staying single, after this is likely what will happen for awhile if not permanently. I have periodic times when I'd like to have a mate and all that goes with it but after the years and more than one SO that was manipulative and abusive, not sure I am convinced anymore that it's ever any different in relationships and that smothers any spark for ever wanting a new thing in the future. I don't close that door completely but really it's not wide open either. We'll see how that goes, but I seem to be rambling now...
anyway just sharing.

[bpcyclist]

Uncoupling is never easy. You can get through this.

I am in the process of a painfully slow dissolution. It has been really hard, as my ex kind of thinks she's still with me, at least partly. Kind of in denial. I just hurt her feelings, apparently, by merely letting her know I did not appreciate the fact that when I was sick she did not let me see my daughter for a year. Now, she's mad at me!! Oh well.

Hang in there.

[s4ndm4n2006]

Originally Posted by bpcyclist

Uncoupling is never easy. You can get through this.

I am in the process of a painfully slow dissolution. It has been really hard, as my ex kind of thinks she's still with me, at least partly. Kind of in denial. I just hurt her feelings, apparently, by merely letting her know I did not appreciate the fact that when I was sick she did not let me see my daughter for a year. Now, she's mad at me!! Oh well.

Hang in there.

thanks sounds like a familiar situation for me.

[Be Still]

I’m quite excited for you. There’s nothing worse than trying to move on but your past is following you. I don’t think you have to have a plan on how your new found freedom will look like. Let life guide you, that way you won’t be hurt by any expectations. As long as you prioritize yourself in this next chapter, everything should be good

[s4ndm4n2006]

thanks for the reply. not so worried about it now, really just curious and the idea that going forward is an unknown territory is always kind of uncertain.

As for priority - funny you should say that, I just said to my friend on the phone that right now, in the coming days is time for me. idk what yet but yeah.

thanks for the reply and encouragement