[EglantineRose]

Hello everyone. I hope you are all doing well in these very difficult times. I am feeling quite sad tonight. I have been struggling with my health lately (I am still not sure why- it is likely either from a prescription medication withdrawal or possibly a thyroid condition.)

So I met someone at the university that I go to who I really liked, but I only got to speak to him a couple of times (I know it's silly that I feel so bad given this, but it's really hard..) anyways, I had to take a couple of weeks off because I haven't been feeling good. Before this I ignored him because I wasn't feeling good. Also I convinced myself that he didn't like me and that I needed to leave him alone. I had planned to go back this week and try to find him and talk to him (I tried to find him before but I couldn't.) Now my university is closed for the rest of the semester because of the virus and I won't get another chance to see him..

My only option would be to send him an e-mail, but I don't want to seem creepy because I don't know him well. I don't want to come across as inappropriate or weird. I just feel bad now because he's such a nice person and there's nothing I can do about this now. I just keep wishing he would contact me but I doubt that would happen. So much regret.

[bpcyclist]

I am sorry for your pain. I have also had the experience of having spent fairly little time with someone, yet, being really drawn to them, for some reason. It happens. Sometimes, we just click with people, I guess.

Personally, I am a you-only-live-once kind of guy. I have been in a similar situation and what I decided to do was to reach out. Won't get into it here, but it was the right thing to do for me at the time.

Maybe you could just send a not-over-the-top email, seeing if he would ever be interested in maybe having coffee or something. Something low-key. If he declines, well, you can go on knowing that it was not for lack of trying.

Good luck, whatever you do!!!!

[sarahsweets]

I think I am confused as to why you say you are devastated by this. Would you mind expanding that a little for me so I understand better?

[EglantineRose]

I am sad because I missed out on someone who was really nice to me and that I really liked. I was going to go back to classes and try to make an effort, but I can't now as the university is shut down. Clearly it wasn't really something that was meant to happen. I guess more devastated because I always do this to myself, assume people don't like me and miss out on the chance to get to know them. I don't have close people in my life and I'm tired of feeling so alone. I have social anxiety so it's hard for me to make connections. I know it may seem stupid but I really liked this person. I didn't talk to them much but I was around them a lot. I also haven't been feeling well for weeks so that makes this situation much more difficult.

[Britedark]

Hi! I have a few questions. Even though your Uni is closed now, classes are going to resume at some point, I guess? Why can't you connect with your class mate then? Or are you guys going to graduate and go your separate ways after this? In that case, what difference would a couple more classes have done? Can you please explain the situation?

[Bill3]

I think you can still send him a friendly email.

Just something light--I miss school, this is terrible, what are you doing, what do you think of online classes, etc.

Ask a few friendly questions!

You can do it!

My advice is to send a short, light, friendly message and see what happens.

[seesaw]

Originally Posted by Bill3

I think you can still send him a friendly email.


Just something light--I miss school, this is terrible, what are you doing, what do you think of online classes, etc.


Ask a few friendly questions!


You can do it!


My advice is to send a short, light, friendly message and see what happens.

I agree with Bill3. No reason you cant reach out without seeming creepy. What would be creepy is if he says leave me alone and you dont.

school shut because of a pandemic, not because of your personal relationship. if you want to send him an e mail, do it. I assume that at some point classes will resume again and there is the opportunity you will come across each other.

it's an e mail. not a life time commitment.

[lady411]

The internet is the perfect way to communicate with him now in our current circumstances. Don’t be afraid to approach him via email. Just make it very casual and if he is interested he will respond promptly. If he doesn’t then he wasn’t interested and that’s ok too. Your better off knowing than going round and round in your head whether you two could’ve had something or not.
I mean you live once so go for it.
I get social anxiety as well so I understand what you mean about what it takes to have the courage to approach someone who’s response is very critical which is more of a reason to go for it!

[Fuzzybear]