Hello everyone...

My mother had me when she was 17 years old.
She treated me badly because of lack of her knowledge of raising a child..
She wouldn't even tell me any information about my past families, her past, my biological father(never saw him ever since birth), my childhood...
I tried to ask her about my childhood but she claims that she doesn't remember anything about me even health issues such as do I have chicken pox and when?
It seems that she hides everything from me
She even "steals" my funds & uses my name to get things because her credit is bad.
As for the issue regarding stealing & using my name... they are not accurate but is suspected
I do despite what she has treated me but try to move past that and start our relationship over but things seem frigid...

I’m sorry to hear about your childhood. My daughter has a friend that has no clue who her father might be. I cannot imagine that. Her mother feels that is her own personal business. I’m sure she feels that she has a very good reason for keeping these things secret.

Regarding your identity and money, I would keep a close eye on your bank account and credit record to ensure that you are not negatively affected by your mother’s mistakes.

About your relationship with your mother, that’s complicated. The only thing you can do is accept her as she is, being aware that she’s not going to change. Look at things realistically and go from there. I hope that you’re relationship reaches some sort of a middle ground in which you and she are able to interact without hurting one another. Good Luck!

Sometimes there are reasons for children not knowing who their father is. Maybe he is married to someone else.
A one night stand. In prison or, a myriad of other reasons.

I know of a family that was schocked to learn that their father had 13 other kids besides them and 1 wife and 2 other women besides their Mom. That dog was my father, he used to say he was afraid to throw a rock in the neighborhood because he might hit one of his kids.

Your Mom may be trying to keep a family secret too. If you know where you were born the search gets easier.

Sounds like your mother cut ties with her own mother or relatives. Too bad she doesn't wish to share her previous life with you and doesn't remember much of your young one.

If you still live with your mother and she needs money for you all to survive, I can imagine her stealing from your funds. My family was relatively "well off" when I was growing up but had 5 children and my stepmother told me she borrowed from my savings account sometimes when she needed money (but claimed to pay it back). I didn't know anything about it until my high school girlfriend and her mother were laughing at my naivety, thinking it was for my "safety" having my mother's name on my savings account in case something happened to me so they could get the money out.

Hope you get to a place where you and your mother have better communication and understanding of one another.