[dragonphoto]

Today is another one of THOSE days...I have finally learned my lesson about giving my wife her time to think...but it is killing me inside...I just want to run to her grab her in my arms and kiss her like I used to. I know that this will probably not happen but I can dream...dream about all the good times we had...dream about our future. But until the time that I can hold her like I used to that is all they are dreams. I agree I have come along way from where I was before...but her love is missing and a part of me is with it...I just truly miss her more than she will know...we have had some good conversations (actually I do most of the talking) and we are becoming friends again (something that I think is important to re-connect again)...but I just find it harder and harder not to wake up next to her...this to shall pass (hopefully)!!!!!

(((((((((dragon)))))

Like you say......'today is one of those days'

You know you will be better and more positive tomorrow....I know you well enough to know that dragon spirit will keep you going and see you through, here if you need to talk hon......

Jin xx

[bebop]

hmmm maybe you should gently take her in your arms and give her one passionate kiss. I know I would melt if my husband did that right now!

[Sultrysorrow]

I know exactly how you feel 'dragonphoto'.
I have been in your shoes many times with the same woman. The empty feeling in the house the sight of not waking up to the person you love. While you two were together you both had control of the situation. But now that you're apart I'm sure both of you are hurting inside and try to mask it by doing things you wouldn't normally do. Unless the problems started with intimate unfaithfulness then I don't know what to say regarding that. But know that there's folks out there that have been down the same road.

[curley]

It really is one of those days, actually week. For many reasons. Sorry your wife is not there for you. But at least you have the chance to work on it. Believe me it is so awful when someone you love wants nothing to do with you.

[dragonphoto]

Thank you all so much...Curly it is not that she is not there for me...she just needs some time to herself.

[CJR520]

So sorry! I know how you feel! My house still feels kind of empty. Hubby was holding hands with a young woman he works with and danced with her at a party at our house. He had never even danced with another woman in our 32 years together. When I questioned him later, it was a huge explosion of anger. All of his friends thought this was very unusual for him, also, as his is a no touch me person. He did admit feelings for her, and it really has me depressed and humiliated. I hope it will get better but he told me it would take time to get over his feelings for her, then he keeps getting angry at me because he knows I am thinking about it. I can't help that!! I guess we all have our struggles. I just thought that I really had the perfect guy, perfect marriage, no worries, then here I am 58 years old, and this happens. I take care of myself, etc. , but I guess it is just the times we live in. Everyone just go do their own thing, and to heck with the rest!! I love him, but just am having a hard time with this so I sympathize with whatever you are going through. The empty house thing is what got my attention. We can both be here together, and it feels empty. I feel betrayed even though there was no sleeping together. It was headed there for sure. Hang in there!!

[dragonphoto]

(((((CJR)))))) I am so sorry for you...the thing about us was not a loss of love...it was more of a betrayal of my wife's trust and she put a wall up to keep from being hurt again. I can tell you I love my wife very much and I enjoy being next to her and holding her hand...Now well...I don't know where I stand...probably on my ear

[chaotic13]

Dragon,
I've read several of your posts but haven't had much I could contribute. I'm experiencing some marital issues myself and there is a lot of emptiness in my relationship too. I think you are doing a good job of giving her the space she needs. Maybe instead of a big passionate hug, you could try to express your feelings and continued desire for her with a squeeze of the hand or something more subtle. Something that can be acknowledged by her but doesn't need to be reciprocated at the moment.

I know you are not my husband; but sometimes the big hug or passionate squeeze is just too much. It raises fears that if you accept it, your going to be dragged into the bedroom. It's nice sometimes to feel that your husband appreciates you and is still interested in you, but acknowledges that your still working through stuff. Subtle physical connections without strings would send me this message without me feeling smothered. If she feels like reciprocating she can then choose to return the squeeze or move closer for a hug. But don't expect it. She may need a few subtle connections before she realizes that there are no strings attached and its safe to reciprocate. Just know that your efforts are likely registering and communicating to her your desire to be with her.

Just some thoughts from the planet Venus.

[CJR520]

We love each other, too. He just is a 60 year old who got lost in the sixties for a few months. It will heal! Talk to your wife, and tell her how you feel. My husband is not a good talker, and that doesn't help. Tell her you love her the mostest!!!!