He said he loved me

I received an email from him that he wanted me to come back. I told him no. He threatened to sent the police on me for "spousal abandonment" even claiming I'm "abusing" him. I'll be talking to the police this Monday. Explaining that I was at a behavioral health because of him, at domestic violence shelter because of him, I tried to divorce him, I ordered a restraining order against him and I suffered severe abuse from him for nine years along with his narcissistic delusion that I'm the abuse. I am not going back and I do not think the police will arrest me for getting away from my abuser.

Hey @FridayT
Be careful with your expectations from the police. Even now in the 21st century about half the cops do not take DV as seriously as they should. The reason I believe that is I also used to volunteer with the DV response team where I go to a location where DV has occured- it could be right away where I am in the driveway talking with them- or help women get into hiding, find resources and recovery or just be emotional support for all the court stuff etc. I personally would leave the behavioral health hospital stay out of all convo's with police. THEY WILL think differently about you. They will judge you. People with MI's already have enough trouble being taken seriously, combined with judgement because of it and the DV situation I worry he is going to use this to flip the script on you.

Can you just completely block him and ignore him an his threats while you get legal advice?

If your husband is truly a legit narcisist he will be able to play the cops like a fiddle. He will prey on your emotions attempting to elicit an irrational outburst. He gaslights. What happened with the order of protection? Legally what was the outcome?
What do you mean by "tried to divorce him?" (these are all questions that an ignorant insensitive person might ask)[/B][/SIZE][/FONT]

OK. Well the order of protection fell through because it's not enough to support that he was a danger to me. I filed the divorce through the court and I delivered the copy of divorce to him by he did nothing. I don't know what to do. I can't go back and I feel stuck.

Is it a contested divorce, I assume? Do you have a lawyer? All you can do now I believe is wait for your court date, since you've filed for divorce already. Maybe join an abuse support group to help you through the trauma of abuse?

Seem like the best choice is to get attorney and abuse support network.

I have no attorney because I'm broke and homeless.

As for the divorce, can't be sure if it's contested or not. I just want to end this and get the hell out of here.

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Originally Posted by FridayT OK. Well the order of protection fell through because it's not enough to support that he was a danger to me. I filed the divorce through the court and I delivered the copy of divorce to him by he did nothing. I don't know what to do. I can't go back and I feel stuck.

Can you afford an attorney consult most of them are free. If your income does not support the ability to hire an attorney I can help you find legal aid services wherever you’re located. I’ve done it before. Legally you serving him with the papers sort of doesn’t matter. You need to have A court officer that is responsible for serving people legal documents. They will serve him he will sign for it and will be considered official. A lawyer will also mail him a copy so there’s no disputing it. All your husband has to do is the name gave it to him and ignore it because legally there’s no way to back it up.

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[FONT="Georgia"][SIZE="3"][B]https://legalaidaz.com/ this is an excellent place to start you should call and fill out the contact form. @FridayT