[17Dar]

Before I begin I want to warn that there will be very adult content in this post.

So for about 2 weeks my boyfriend and I have been trying to work through some communication problems. A week ago. He left.....in really want to work things out, and I was here talking all night one night because no couldn't sleep with everything going on....tokdnhim we'd talk the next day rather than that morning. We'll that morning, I gues I musta been delerioius because I answeresd my house door in my bath robe... I guess expecting it to be him.....it wasn't! It was an ex! H forced mebto have sex with him. I was so emotional ally distraught that when my boyfriend came back initially lied telling him nothing happened. Of course he figured out that it had and now we are fight ing agian. We both love each other sommuch, but right now, he won't talk to me... Help! My depression is slipping ina downward spiral as I struggle with this.

At the same time. I struggle. I am faced with a possibility of being pregnant, it is very difacult to say for sure as e lost a baby in June and I have not yet resumed menstrual cycles.

Any words of wisdom or thoughts on how I can approach the situation wouldnbe appreciated.

He is against therapy.

Thanks so much
Dar

[Yaowen]

Dear 17Dar,

I am so sorry that this happened to you. It is so heartbreaking! I wish I had some wisdom to share, but sadly I am at a loss. Hopefully your relationship will transcend this incident and be better than before. I think your thoughts and feelings are very understandable. I hope others here will have better ideas and words than mine. Sometimes out of misfortune can come greater happiness. My wish is that this will happen to you!

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[Scarlet Alexis]

Dear Dar17,

I am so sorry for what happened to you. Can you look into therapy for yourself, even if your boyfriend won't? It would be really important to get some support due to the rape/assault from your ex. That is a trauma, and I'm so sorry for what you are going through.
The best thing your boyfriend could do would be to support you through this trauma, and I'm sorry he hasn't shown more concern and empathy for you.
No one should have to go through what you're going through. Sending you hugs.

[Prycejosh1987]

I know you are depressed, but cheating is unacceptable. There is no excuse to have sex with your ex, unless you werent getting anything from your boyfriend. Come clean to your boyfriend about what you did, and discuss your feelings with him. It sounds like you need more intimacy in your relationship.