[Junerain]

My boss asked suddenly for a zoom meeting, I was shocked..I told my boyfriend what happened, that I had to go to my mom's apartment for an emergency zoom meeting, he said I sounded anxious, that my anxiety made him anxious, and that he "was trying to take care of himself..."

In another instance, he and I visited his former workplace, a restaurant. I told his Dad we visited my boyfriend's old workplace. His Dad asked him if he saw his former coworkers. He screamed, "I'm not social!" and proceeded to tell me for forty minutes how much he hated his Dad, that he wished he would just die.

Seems strange for us to break up over simple, yet exaggerated emotions like this. I'm not sure what to do.....

[overgiver88]

Did you break up? How long have you been dating and how old are you? Don't worry about this, maybe he needs some time to collect himself?

[Junerain]

We have been dating for four months. I am 47 years old. We broke up.

[overgiver88]

I am sorry to hear this. It is not clear from your message whether that is the first time he is acting in this way, but it seems like there is more to it than just anxiety. Has he been acting like this often?

If he needs to "take care of himself" I say let him think about this for a while, it indeed sounds like he has some things to work through, but his reactions are a bit over the top for the situation you described.

Why would he hate his dad, what is his relationship with him like? Did his dad do anything to trigger this comment from him?

[Junerain]

no, his Dad simply asked him whether he saw his old co workers, when we went to the restaurant where he used to work.

[divine1966]

He sounds too emotionally unstable. It might be for the best that you broke up

[herbal tea]

Was he always like that? Has it only recently become so?
If he was like that all the time, how do you handle it? It's like living with a bomb, you don't know what to expect from it the next minute.
Personally, I try to avoid such emotional people because my nervous system can't stand them. I am a calm person and I am comfortable when there are also calm people around me.
If he was not like that before, then maybe he has some problems?

[Prycejosh1987]

I think could be related to anxiety, one of the natural symptoms of anxiety is emotional issues. You cannot do anything about this, but you can assure him, that you care. He probably feels like this because he doesnt think his people care about him. My sister does the same thing, i tell her i love her, but nobody else does, and that is a problem.