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Nov 16, 2020, 05:08 AM
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So there's this person i met a year or two back ,and at the time i was like "if fate allows it ,we'll meet again" but recently in the year i've slowly started texting this person and i would really like to meet this person but both times i asked i wasn't given an answer ,and sometimes i've even been "ignored" and i understand ,we're all people ,we're busy at times ,maybe sometimes we don't have an answer ,i get that so i've started to have a question "should i really make the effort to connect ,after all this?.
I was always the first one to text ,never has this person actually texted me first and honestly im starting to lose the will to text first and to come with interesting thins to talk about..but at the same time im still interested in this person and we've been talking for quite a while .I don't want to be taken for granted or heck even be annoying to this person(because i get that feeling sometimes) |
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Nov 16, 2020, 06:03 AM
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I don't think it's worth spending time on this person. Because it is obvious that a person is not interested in communication. If this were not the case, you would be actively communicating.
I generally adhere to the principle that effort should be made by both, and the same amount of effort. And it doesn't matter if it's a romantic relationship or a friendship. If one person always takes the initiative, tries to be attentive, and the other does nothing at all, then it is a road to nowhere. If one person takes 5 steps, then the other must take 5 steps. There must be equality. Then such a relationship has a future. |
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#3
Nov 16, 2020, 07:18 AM
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I think during a pandemic it isnt wise to meet someone who you do not see. We have to stay in our bubbles with the people we interact with regularly. That said, it seems like this person is wishy washy/
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Nov 16, 2020, 07:30 AM
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The thing is ,i asked before the pandemic ,that's what makes it even worse.
But the thing that confuses me is that this person always helps me when i need help and thats made it a bit harder for me to take a decision but i think i should end this ,after all time is the only resource we don't have an unlimited supply of. |
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#5
Nov 16, 2020, 09:12 AM
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It sounds to me like they are not wanting communication with you. I think it would be annoying to them if you kept trying to contact. All that you described speak to me that they are not interested in any relationship. There are plenty of fish in the sea, as they say. It would be good to keep your mind open to meeting new people and let this one go from your heart.
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#6
Nov 18, 2020, 11:51 AM
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You are always the one reaching out, they aren't.
I know people use this as an excuse but seriously, how busy can someone be that they can't spend 10 seconds on a text..? You deserve someone who is as interested in you as you are in them. I would move on. |
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Nov 19, 2020, 05:09 AM
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Yes ,i decided to mo ,thouve on ,i informed them toogh they probably didn't care but i thought it's polite of me to inform them.
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Nov 19, 2020, 11:25 AM
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Good decision to move on!
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