online dating/socializing and rona

I was asking the question to the OP.

Said that, @MisterPaul, I disagree with you and scientific researchers give me the reason. Women are not especially lead by physical appearance, there are others many characteristics that play a major role. It’s males who are especially lead by what they see.

I am reasonably good looking yet I don’t care about looks. Especially things like height. Can anyone control height? Good looks isn’t an achievement. Now if someone isn’t groomed and looks disheveled that they control.

I’m average but tall, so I was called giraffe when I was a kid by my peers. Such stupid thing! but you know anything that appears different are target of mockeries.
I had such a complex because of it when being a kid.
What I’m sure it’s that women are not more attracted to physics than men. Indeed, many of them measure their masculinity according to the beauty of the partners they get. It’s sad but still it happens. We have a lot to evolve.

Have you tried meet up? I think they are having zoom meet ups now. In meetup the emphasis is on friendship and sharing a common interest not romance

Oh, I don't care about researchers and their little brain-teasers. I just give you an example from my life. When I was fat/out of shape I had to put a lot of effort to meet some signs of attraction. Since I shaped up most of times I just have to say hi. My personality and confidence didn't change a bit.

Though I agree with the second part of your post. There are others many characteristics that play a major role, but if two guys are "equal" and one doesn't care about his looks, he looses. Life's harsh.

You're pretty by default, aren't you? Good looks is an achievement when you don't have it at the start. From proper haircuit, taking care of one's skin and facial hair (men) through one's dressing style up to working out and staying in shape. It takes time and effort.

I thought I was clear distinguishing between being well groomed/taking care of oneself and having good looks one was born with. What you describing is grooming and taking care of oneself, yes one can control it and that matters.

OP was talking about something that one cannot control like height and being rejected because of his height that he has zero control over. Same way people have no control over size of their nose or their eyes or other feature they were born with

There are some meetups that are in person now and yes many are virtual

Grooming can make a significant difference. Furthermore, the way you dress can make your height "problem" less noticeable, wouldn't you agree?

No if a man is 5’4”, It doesn’t matter how he dresses, he is 5’4”. Height can’t be less noticeable. Especially not when you stand next to other people. My daughters future husband is shorter than her. It’s no matter what he wears when they walk together he is shorter. His whole family are short folks. No matter what they wear. Who cares

It doesn’t matter to me, I can’t care less but for whatever stupid reason superficial things matter to some people

I personally don't care if a men is shorter than me or higher... If he is a good man, I won't pay attention to his height As I mentioned earlier about online dating apps and type of men hanging around there, many of them have just broken up with their exes, which makes them even more vulnerable and going crazy about possible sexual relations. When I break up with someone, I just watch movies for hard breakups from https://breakupangels.com/tag/movies/. These movies are really helpful when it comes to cheering up and getting over the breakup. But I don't search for hookups and nightstands just because my heart is broken as men usually do...