[Phrysca]

Long story short, my children have been with my family for eight years, and not once did they make it easy or an effort for me to spend time with my children. Of course, I know my role in it had its affects as well. However, when I spoke to my daughter, who is now sixteen, I didn't realize that my family were - I want to say brainwashing them because what my daughter claimed that I had done was completely wrong. I feel bad for calling her a liar, and I didn't want to but I could not agree to what she was saying. She actually believed what she was saying to me, and telling me that I might have blocked it out of my memory, but I know for a fact something like what she said would take more to just block. I would have had to had gotten a serious head injury to forget something like what she said. It was absurd and ridiculous. And she believed it. I had gotten into an argument with my son before and I knew what he was saying was what he had heard my family say about me, but none of what he said was nearly as wild as what my daughter said. I am still in shock. My parents were right there and they didn't intervene or say anything to my defense nor to my daughter's. But I know my family and they had plenty to say behind my back. Then they wonder why I get upset when I talk to them. They don't reason with me and they try to get me to agree with their lies. I knew it was difficult and I thought it was almost impossible. Now I don't ever see them forgiving me. I thought by asking my family for help they'd help me the way they've helped everyone else I have known. Instead they take my babies and brainwash their minds and turn them against me. If I knew what it was that I did to them to hate me so much we could move on, but they won't even talk to me. I don't understand. I've thought about getting a mediator because I know counseling is out of the question. Since they think mental illness is because you are crazy, and not an actual practice. This has me numb. I already don't talk to my parents, and my siblings don't want to face me. I would love an intervention to see who really needs therapy or a rehab from the pain we have caused to one another...

[MickeyCheeky]

It must be painful to go through ALL of this. i am So Sorry to hear it. Have you tried to talk to your children about ALL of this to explain at least partly the situation to them? Do you currently live with your Family? Is it possible for you to get away from them at least temporarely? SEnding many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Phrysca, your Family, your FriEnds, your children, your doctors and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[divine1966]

Could you get social workers involved? So they could mediate and you maybe can have supervised visits with your children. Do you have court ordered visitations with your kids? No matter if they live elsewhere you likely can have visits

[sarahsweets]

Originally Posted by Phrysca

Long story short, my children have been with my family for eight years, and not once did they make it easy or an effort for me to spend time with my children. Of course, I know my role in it had its affects as well. However, when I spoke to my daughter, who is now sixteen, I didn't realize that my family were - I want to say brainwashing them because what my daughter claimed that I had done was completely wrong. I feel bad for calling her a liar, and I didn't want to but I could not agree to what she was saying. She actually believed what she was saying to me, and telling me that I might have blocked it out of my memory, but I know for a fact something like what she said would take more to just block. I would have had to had gotten a serious head injury to forget something like what she said. It was absurd and ridiculous. And she believed it. I had gotten into an argument with my son before and I knew what he was saying was what he had heard my family say about me, but none of what he said was nearly as wild as what my daughter said. I am still in shock. My parents were right there and they didn't intervene or say anything to my defense nor to my daughter's. But I know my family and they had plenty to say behind my back. Then they wonder why I get upset when I talk to them. They don't reason with me and they try to get me to agree with their lies. I knew it was difficult and I thought it was almost impossible. Now I don't ever see them forgiving me. I thought by asking my family for help they'd help me the way they've helped everyone else I have known. Instead they take my babies and brainwash their minds and turn them against me. If I knew what it was that I did to them to hate me so much we could move on, but they won't even talk to me. I don't understand. I've thought about getting a mediator because I know counseling is out of the question. Since they think mental illness is because you are crazy, and not an actual practice. This has me numb. I already don't talk to my parents, and my siblings don't want to face me. I would love an intervention to see who really needs therapy or a rehab from the pain we have caused to one another...

I don’t know the back story but Why are your kids not with you or their dad ?

[Phrysca]

I really appreciate the support. Their father was deported, and a year later my parents called cps. The events that followed were back to back situations that are too much. Here is a list of just a few of the things that happened. Before their father was deported my grandmother passed, my brother moved, my best friend passed, I became homeless, my boyfriend turned on me by being abusive, even my physician retired. That is the beginning of what kept me from getting my children back. They don't know anything as far as me telling them, but my family talked a lot of BS instead of helping me, they probably thought I'd die on the streets. That's what it seemed like. There are a lot more of things that I prefer to not share just yet.