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Jan 24, 2021 at 10:32 AM
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This is my first post on this forum. I’m newly separated from my husband. We are still living in the same house and it is very emotional for me. We have one child who we have not told yet, but I’m sure he knows something is going on. This is the hardest thing I’ve ever gone through and I am so scared of being alone. We have been together for 19 years. I’m also very hurt because this is something he wants and I do not. I cry constantly and wish the aching pain would just go away.
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Jan 24, 2021 at 01:12 PM
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I am so sorry. It must be really hard
 If divorce is unavoidable you’ll feel better not living together at some point. Do you have a lawyer? Would you consider a therapist to help you through this? Sending hugs, it can’t be easy
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Jan 25, 2021 at 07:33 AM
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I'm so very sorry for your pain. I am also recently separated from my husband, but we're not under the same roof. I cannot imagine what that would be like. We're currently going through a divorce.
Do you want to talk more about it? Did he give you specific reasons for wanting this? I know how scary it is to face being alone again. I was only married less than two years, but I am 50 years old facing being single again. If you want, feel free to PM me. __________________ "Twenty-five years and my life is still trying to get up that great big hill of hope for a destination" ~4 Non Blondes |
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Jan 25, 2021 at 09:44 AM
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So Sorry you're going through this!
 i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters. Things can definitely improve but unfortunately it takes time. Please do feel free to post on here and share more details if you feel more comfortable about it. i'd also try to suggest couple counseling to him if you haven't already. if he seems adamant, try moving out to some relatives or friends' house if possible at least as a temporary solution. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Elizabeth0910, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!     
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Jan 25, 2021 at 10:55 AM
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I know exactly how you feel
Wife left me 2 weeks ago after 33 years of marriage.we have to daughter's 31 and 32 years old and she doesn't want me talking to the oldest at all.Oldest has blocked me out completely. All alone and scared . Trying to find help is almost impossible, friends don't talk to me ,not sure why or what to do.If you would like to talk about it ,maybe we could help each other. I'm trying to fine a good therapist to help. |
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Jan 25, 2021 at 04:58 PM
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Jan 25, 2021 at 07:09 PM
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