[cookiepie234]

I've posted a couple times before about the trouble I was having with a close friend of mine, so maybe some of you will remember and I'm sorry if it's repetitive. But, I've finally decided to give up and distance myself for good.

I'm tired of her spending months talking to me about how she had no friends, no one spoke to her (which isn't even true) yet whenever I text her I don't get a response for 4+ days, despite her constantly posting all over social media.

I'm tired of the way she says one things and does another. Everything she says feels fake and forced just for the sake of old times.

I'm tired of her being flaky and distant.

I'm tired of the way she slowly stopped bothering with me once she was reunited with her best friend.

I'm tired of the way she'll reach out if we haven't spoken in ages (usually because I've backed off due to her distance) only for her to then disappear again after the first conversation. If she reaches out this time, I'm not going to give in.

I have tried telling her how I feel but nothing changed, it wasn't addressed so I'm not saying, I'm just going to quietly distance myself. I have felt so insignificant in this friendship for ages now and I'm done. It hurts to realise how unimportant I've become to her but I'll get over it.

[RoxanneToto]

I’m sorry your friend has been treating you so poorly, but I think you’re doing the right thing. I gave up on my longest friendship for similar reasons and I’m so much happier even though I have two fewer friends because of it. Hopefully ending your friendship will bring you a sense of relief too.

[Yaowen]

Dear cookiepie234,

I've had friends like the one you describe so I can totally identify with what you wrote. Sorry you are in such an unhappy situation! I think your thoughts are very, very understandable.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

[Arpheus]

She's not a friend, she's just using you.

It just sounds like it's time you understood that reality.

[MickeyCheeky]

So Sorry this is happening! i agree with the other wise and wonderful posters in being So Sorry that you're both going through this. i Hope things will improve with your friend but in the meantime giving yourself a break is not that bad i suppose. Please do not give up. Hope things will improve for both and everyone. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @cookiepie234, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!

[cookiepie234]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

Dear cookiepie234,

I've had friends like the one you describe so I can totally identify with what you wrote. Sorry you are in such an unhappy situation! I think your thoughts are very, very understandable.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen

Thank you Yao Wen I’m sorry you’ve had to experience something similar, it really does hurt but at least now I know where I stand.

[cookiepie234]

Originally Posted by RoxanneToto

I’m sorry your friend has been treating you so poorly, but I think you’re doing the right thing. I gave up on my longest friendship for similar reasons and I’m so much happier even though I have two fewer friends because of it. Hopefully ending your friendship will bring you a sense of relief too.

Thanks Roxanne! I already started to feel peace when I spoke to her less, and I think that says a lot.

I’m sorry you had to go through a similar thing but I’m glad you’re doing better now

[RoxanneToto]

Thanks, cookiepie, some people you’re just better off without but it can take time to realise!

[Zipper dog]

Yep! Been there many times. Done that. It's almost like they get what they want from us and then they're gone. Called fairweather acquaintances. Chin up. There's more where that one came from. I don't put any more time in people like that. It took me years of figuring out that I put 90% into a relationship and got 0 back. Now, I put time into people that care about me too. Hugs...