Are people in your life extremely unsupportive during your hard times?

In this situation you flatly contradicted the speakers and painted yourself as a lot smarter than them.

That's risky from a social perspective.


I bet it would be worth figuring out when they let you in, and when they don't.

I bet it isn't "hit or miss".


Yes exactly!


I think that the reactions you are describing are predictable. If you just flatly contradict what others are saying, you are likely to get a negative reaction from them. If you present yourself as a lot smarter than they are, you are likely to get a negative reaction from them.

I worked night shift yesterday and I usually work day shift. A guy in a wheelchair came in and it became clear shortly after that he didn’t need a wheelchair. He speed walked to our counter asking for sauces and he speed walked to the restroom.

My coworkers talked among themselves that he’s not really disabled and that he seriously needs to go. After a few exchanges like that, I joined in saying he’s not affecting us so it’s really not our business. One of them asked me to repeat myself, so I did. Then they told me to go do something cuz they weren’t talking to me.

Wtf! People can be unpredictable. Those same people were friendly at the beginning of my shift. They allowed me to join in all their other conversation that day, before the one about the “disabled” man. So much for joining a normal conversation. Maybe they feel strongly about kicking him out.

When I was in school and a few classmates talked about how hard an exam was, I said the exam was super easy. I breezed through it. One of them went, “that’s nice.” And went on talking.

It’s a hit and miss joining a conversation. Sometimes they let me in, sometimes they don’t.